I love this guy but we have some trust issues...HELP!! i need advice?

If you love the guy then you'll work on rebuilding those trust issues, because face it a relationship without trust is like building a house with no solid foundation and otherwise destined for doom. It just sucks that trust takes so long to build sometimes and so easy to ruin. I guess it all depends on what you're having trouble trusting him about.I love this guy but we have some trust issues...HELP!! i need advice?
have them tooI love this guy but we have some trust issues...HELP!! i need advice?
without trust you have nothing. If you dont have trust now, you never will. Keepn it real.
just keep one thing in mind.....life is at its weakest when there are more doubts than trust.....but life is at its strongest when u learn to trust inspite of the doubts.

eyeshadow

Trust him? Any words of advice plz.....?

I know it wasn't good to do, but I checked my boyfriend's emails. I saw he had every single email that I have sent him, but on the deleted folder, I saw a lot of old emails dating to early 2007. Then, I found these 5 emails from a girl in which he also replied back, the year was supposdely 2008, and by that time we had barely started dating. I am so confused, and I don't know what to think. I talked to him straight about it, and he said that those emails were from the time before we started dating, but that sometimes the dates and times are wrong. Honestly, it doesn't stop bothering me thinking about it. He has been a wonderful boyfriend, and he had never given me any reasons to doubt about him. I mean, he always calls me, we go out every time we can, our families knows us each other, he has never acted weird with phone calls or messages or anything, and he said that if he had something to hide he wouldnt have given me the password. Everything is so formal that he has said he wants to marry after college. I am so confused! Any words of advice??Trust him? Any words of advice plz.....?
Well if he is serious about u and u really trust him then don't sweat it. But if the e-mail said something like he was dating this other girl, but he is not dating her now, then just explain to him that there is no reason to lie to u. Hope that helpsTrust him? Any words of advice plz.....?
I think he sounds pretty good, but just a quick point: if he is really into you, like married into you, he would have deleted those e-mail of past girls. That's what my boyfriend did. If he is focused solely on you, he would probably have deleted them. Just a pointer.
Yeah,sounds like he is being honest but just in case, no sex until AFTER you are married to be on the safe side.
OK you found e-mails for a year ago, are you serious, I think you are tired of being with him and you are looking for reasons to break up with him and if this is all you got you need to keep digging cuz this is crap that was from a long time ago and it more then likely did happen before you, does he know all your past NO so get over his little long time love notes and move on if you are mad for that then I wonder what you did that your looking for some fault in him.. this sounds a lil fishhhy.
I think you should trust him, as you said these emails were from when you were barley dating.





I think you should worry about him trusting you, what the hell were you doing checking his emails? If my girlfriend did that i know i wouldn't trust her, this is no because im cheating on her, im completely faithfull to her but emails are private, noone has the right to go through other peoples email.
WHAT ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT???????


1) Those emails were either prior or just after you bagan dating.





2) There's no way to change the dates, I don't know what you're thinking about this%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;%26gt;





3) He's a great bf.





4) YOU SOUND LIKE THE PROBLEM!!!!!! you go through his emails, you confront him over very old emails that don't mean anything, and you seem confused over something.
If the most recent were that long ago, then just forget them. If there were some in the last month or so, then you could worry.
He sounds pretty believable. I wouldn't worry about it.
don't worry girl, maybe your just trying to find something to doubt him, but he sounds like mr. perfect. i do not think at all he cheated on you. i would believe him. have more faith in your man :)

Trust issues...I REALLY NEED ADVICE PLZ!!! :( :(?

I've been seeing a guy for a while now, I feel very good around him and we have the best sex. and he has told me that he doesn't play girls and that he is loyal and true. His roomate who is my friend says that he doesn't see him hanging out with any girl as much as he hangs out with me....but the thing is its hard for me to really beleive it. Like I heard all this before from other boys but they all have hurt me and lied to me. how can I just trust what everyone says and not have doubts because it constantly stresses me out :(Trust issues...I REALLY NEED ADVICE PLZ!!! :( :(?
you have to remember that not all guys are the same. and if they say they haven't seen him with any other girl, especially if they are your friends..i'm sure they are telling the truth..my friends never steered me wrong before. they were almost always right. let go of the past and stop stressing. i am the same way. i worry a lot and stress about who i can trust and who i can't, but i let it go 'cause it's just putting me down.

Trust issues with my GF advice please?

I always trusted my gf whole heartly and never had any doubts...until recently. She works at a bar selling shots and gets paid to flirt with guys. Doesn't bother me that she does this, but a few weeks ago she didn't come home until 4 (shes usually out by 3) completed wasted and talking nonsense about how she got lost and I gave her the wrong directions when I never talked to her or nothing. She says she can't remember anything and we looked through her phone and figured she was unaccounted for between 3-4. She told me she just got real drunk because she was uncomfortable because my ex girlfriend was there giving her a hard time. I beleived her and didn't think much of it.


BUT


Last night I was looking at her myspace and saw some guy say something like hey sugar **** when can I see you?


she said back Hey lover whenever you want it or something like that


He said I want to see you at work heres my number call me....


All this was around the same weekend she was unnaccounted forTrust issues with my GF advice please?
hey man,


I would let it slide for the moment..... you are better off keeping your cool right now. If she is a cheat, and it sounds like it. Pay close attention to communication's, cell phone for sure and the computer, and things that are not routine are a clue.


Good luck, I hope it turns out OK for you.


FJTrust issues with my GF advice please?
I'd Ask ';who's this guy your seeing?'; coz you said she was talking to some guy on myspace.


see her reaction and wait for her arnser.


I think we pretty much know what happend.


Gd Luck


xoxoxox
i think shes messin around on ya... why repond to emails like that? keep your eyes sharp bro.
You need a sober girlfriend. And the whole myspace thing is really skanky. And it should bother you that your girlfriend sells shots in a bar. Ugh!
i think that if your having to keep an eye on your girlfriend to the degree that you can notice that she has gone missing for an hour then theres already problems, my ex girlfriend flirting online sealed the deal for me %26amp; i broke up with her shortly after, however flirting does'nt mean they are doing anything %26amp; i think that you might just need some reassurance from her to put you at ease every once in a while as it cant be easy with the job she does!
Do you think she was just joking around on MySpace, like making a joke? Is the person on MySpace someone you know? Do you typically check her MySpace and does she know you do? If yes, then ask her about it.
As much as it sucks, it's pretty obvious as to what's going on. She's cheating on you, or in the process of setting it up. I'd confront her about it, and if she starts being shifty and nervous, then you've got your answer. Tell her to pack her stuff and get out. You can do better than her. Good luck!
she needs to stop getting drunk
If you dont have trust, you have nothing in a relationship. She is not being loyal, even if she didnt do much, she still writes those things behind your back and that is WRONG. A relationship takes 2 people working equally. I say move on, though it seems hard and better things will come your way. Be thankful for the time that you did have and be done with the mistrust. It will only make you question things further in the future. Good luck and stay strong
this is a toughy, well it sounds to me like she is getting caught up in the moment at work, with horny guys and unlimited amounts of alchohol around. I give her the benifit of the doubt that she may not be cheating......yet. i used to work in a bar you have to be firm with those jerks. weather your x is there or not, its not an excuse to misbehave. i just think you need to talk to her before things get any worse. im real sorry man. you should def. talk to her about that myspace crap. she doesnt sound to faithful on that message. you should go up to her work and surprise her.
Who knows what happened that night, but the messaging on myspace is out of line. She should not be talking to another guy like that if she is with you. I would confront her about it.

My parents dont trust me. do you have any advice for me so my parents could trust me?

try talking to them. it's actually very effective. ask them why they find it difficult to trust you and then if there's anything you could do to earn their trust. it's important that you don't start yelling your head off hysterically, no matter what they say, because sometimes they will take it the wrong way. just act calm and serious and tell them that you'd do anything to earn their trust.My parents dont trust me. do you have any advice for me so my parents could trust me?
You need to add more to your question. i.e


In what way %26amp; what kind of action etc etc, dont they trust you.


How old you are now?


What did you do that make yr parents both have the same ';attitude'; towards you?My parents dont trust me. do you have any advice for me so my parents could trust me?
What did you do, to break their trust? You didn't say.

So I need some early relationship advice... I want to trust him 100% but something is stopping me... Help?

I just straed dating him in mid August... but I've known him since I was 14, I'm now 22. he use to have the biggest crush on me but I wouldn't give him he time of day... fast forward to now. We are together and lately he acts as if we spent too much time together but we don't! And I believe he's only sayin thisd ue to others speaking their mind to him!! And Idk but i almost feel like he may b talkin to somone else . All I'm sayin is I do like him alot n I almost feel like the roles have been flipped. I don't wanna ask him because I don't wannaseem like im crazy or nething n i don;t wanna check up on him or read his phone.. cause i don't believe in doin that at ALL!! So help??So I need some early relationship advice... I want to trust him 100% but something is stopping me... Help?
You know what I went through the EXACT same thing with my boyfriend! He always seemed distant and I always wanted to see him..I woulda been happy to see him everyday if I could but he wanted space and his ';Me time'; So come to find out he was talking to other girls. The worst part about it was he was talking to his ex!! I know you dont wanna seem crazy and neither did I but I did look at his phone and found things that I didnt wanna find. So I believe that if you feel that somethings not right then you should trust your gut instinct because believe it or not you always know when somethings wrong. If you really like him and wanna be with him then dont be afraid to ask you need to have an open and honest relationship in order to gain trust.Good luck!So I need some early relationship advice... I want to trust him 100% but something is stopping me... Help?
Time for one of those adult/adult talks. You should ask any question that you have, as should he. Don't let too much time go by. Your frustration will only increase. If he/you can't have open communication it isn't going to work.

My boyfriend is going on holiday with his mates...should i trust him??? pls gimme ur advice. is it d end?

i've been wit my boyfrnd for 3 months but i've known him for longer. he's an amazing guy, full of life and very sociable. we really go well together and even his mates make gr8 company. i enjoy every minute i'm with him. however lets put this clear, he is very cute %26amp; he gets all the girls he wants. ok now dont think i m possesive, i m not but i think that in a relationship you dont date other girls/boys if you are going out with some1.


Well d thing is that he is going abroad for a whole week wit his mates and they are currently single. i know them well and im sure that they will hitch up with girls for 1 night stands and so on just for fun...d thing is that im not so sure that my boyfrnd will just sit down in a bar %26amp; watch his buddies make out. obviously i dnt wanna spoil his fun but it is not fair for me either that he joins in wit them cos i really value our relationship and knowing my boyfriend unfortunately he is very instinctive and i have a feeling that he is gonna b unfaithfulMy boyfriend is going on holiday with his mates...should i trust him??? pls gimme ur advice. is it d end?
Consider it a test.


If he is faithful then you are in luck


If he is not faithful then at least you know nowMy boyfriend is going on holiday with his mates...should i trust him??? pls gimme ur advice. is it d end?
if you think he's going to be unfaithful, then why are even with him??
The minute we have pulled we dont just go and grab a room... at like 7pm .... we drink and dance (Well try to ) until the small hours no one will get left behind.... he will be fine.... and not everone will get their leg over.... each and everynight....
If he loves you why should he behave in any way that would distress you?If he trusts you;why do you not trust him?
I agree with the dude with a hat ....
He's going to plat hide-the-salami as much as he can
Trust is very important in a relationship, although naturally i would feel the same.





Whether hes on holiday or at home if he's going to cheat on you he will





I would try to relax, if you want to be with him you are going have to grit your teeth, while hes on holiday keep busy you wont think about it as much.
without trust you dont have anything anyway so you've got nothing to lose. Seriously if you are with a guy that makes you feel like hes gonna cheat theres something wrong, why didnt he ask you along ?





saying that though, i always got suspected of being a cheat by my ex just because i always had girls after me but i would never cheat ever, just cus your bf get lots of female attention doesnt mean hes gonna cheat.





Its all about trusting.
So are you intending to be chaperone or what? Whether you watch him or not he will do whatever he has the compulsion to do. If you don't trust him your in the wrong relationship....move on.
You have to trust him and stop torturing yourself that he might - He hasnt even gone yet!





If you carry on about it, he may get fed up with you and do something. So my advice is try extra hard to be the best thing that has ever happened to him so he wouldnt want to stray.
it's reasonable to be a little bit possessive in a relationship, as long as you're not coming up with rules for him to follow or whatnot. as far as going on a trip with his friends, i say you should just let him go and trust that he'll be faithful. and if not, then kick him to the curb, cuz he's not worth it.
You say you're not possessive and yet this sounds like a bit of a rant.





You've only been together for 3 months - he's quite entitled to go on holiday with his mates without getting the third degree from you.





I'm afraid you'll have to face it. He will go on this holiday - he may, or may not be faithful to you. If he is you'll never know and if he's not you'll never know - either way your paranoia will inevitably cause damage to the relationship.


You describe him as a good catch in every other way. I'm assuming this holiday was booked before you came along so either chill out - let him have his week of fun - if you two stay together it may be the last time he goes away with his mates OR get possessive about it and split up!
The funny thing is I'm in the same boat...only I'm the one going on holiday with my single friend and my boyfriend of two years of worried. To be honest I would be worried too if I was you. I have talked with my bf many times, and he knows I love him, but I dont think either of us actually knows that is going to happen when I'm gone. European boys can be hard to resist. i just say to talk to your man, and see what he is thinking, just find out and tell him your feelings. Good luck

eyeshadow

My wife has trust issues, I need some advice in resolving them.?

My wife and I have always had some trust issues, however it seems that it has been getting worse. I know that I have not been the most trustworthy person, I have lied and cheated. I know this was wrong but much of it was a result of getting accused for something that I did not do. I have since repented, and wish to better my relationship with my wife, however she does not trust me and tells me that I am lying almost every day. Her exact words are: ';You lie so much that you don't relize that you are doing it';. I know that I have manic depression and have some short term memory issue that are caused by that, however she thinks this is lie as well. What can I do that will help resolve these issues? Please I need help, I'm currently 1500 miles away from my wife and she calls me 7 or 8 times a day just to tell me how much she does not trust me. I am having a hard time dealing with this and have no one else to turn to.My wife has trust issues, I need some advice in resolving them.?
Get treatment for the manic depression, counseling for yourself, tell your wife that you are taking these steps to change your behaviors and become the trustworthy husband that you would both like you to be.


Ask the counselor how to stop the destructive phone calls without making her more suspicious.


If you had stolen $50,000.00 from your wife, would you simply offer a sincere apology and then wonder why things did not just fall into place? Or would you make restitution, even taking on a better paying job that you hated, so that you could make it right?


Emotional restitution, while less straightforward, is also a part of this equation.


Take care of these things with the physical and spiritual support that you need to get this done. Otherwise, it will take care of you.


In the meantime, check out the radio archives on line from a great show called ';New Life Live';.Their advice is realistic, and they have a great sensitivity as well as a great sense of humor.


Try it, and start feeling better 'cause you are taking care of yourself, your marriage, and in the long run, even your wife:)My wife has trust issues, I need some advice in resolving them.?
This is because you are a bad husband. Just beacsue she accused you that gives you no right to cheat. If I were your wife I would have dumped your sorry butt and took all your money. She has the right to feel this way! Your short term memory thing I belive is made up and your way of trying to get out of your lying. The best thing to do is go to counseling right away. Why are you away from your wife? You need to get back to her asap if you wan this relationship to continue. DOnt do anyhting stupid while you are away. You brought this on yourself. SHe has every right not to trust you because you slept with another lady. You are supposed to be married not getting naked with other females. SHE really needs to leave you and find a real man
you guys should try counceling ,and ask your wife what she needs from you to make her trust you ,if she says theres nothing you can do you should think about leaving .no one wants to live there life that way.
me and my husband had the same problem but he did the unthinkable he flip it around got mad and didnt care anymore he asked me if i wanted him to be with somone else and he didnt want to hear about anything anymore i felt bad cause i relized i was tripppin and it got worse then it got better
get a divorce.
You need to find a way to show her that you are trustworthy. No one can tell you what this is, you will have to figure this out. Of course she will have some trust issues, i would too. When she starts accusing you, don't get angry or frustrated. Be calm, reasure her thats everything is ok. Try spending more time with her, kinda like for her to get to know you all over again.
read the peace-giver and get counseling it help me and my wife with her trust issues
You have 3 problems here:


A medical one


a difficult wife


and a past history.





It takes work to win someones trust back. That said the OTHER person needs to accept their role in causing the problem and they also need to decide whether or not they want to relationship to continue or not. Staying married just to call you a liar everyday is not a relationship worth saving. Marriages are built on love and forgiveness. You recognized your mistake and are trying to atone. If you recently committed the act this could just be her reacting. And you should expect a certain level of ';blowback.'; which is understandable.





However if it's been years well then she needs to get off of it or find another relationship.





As far as the medical issue you should see a doctor WITH her if she doesn't already know and get proper treatment. If she doesn't believe you really have a problem then you forgetting things or getting stuff mixed up won't help you with her. Because it just feeds the image she's determined to have of you.





The 3rd problem is much more critical and that's her behavior. You could address the other 2 issues and if she continues to berate you and not trust you it's just going to make you hate her and do it again. The next time she calls to yell at you ask her in a calm voice. ';Then why are you still with me? You can always leave. I want this relationship to work but for it to work YOU need to decide if you want this to work because I'm not going to stay just to be your whipping boy. PART of this situation is based on the fact you didn't believe me in the first place and I gave you something to justify your accussation. Now, if you are going to continue with this behavior it's obvious this isn't going to work because YOU don't want it to.





I feel bad about what happened but not so bad I have to be tormented daily by you. That's what HELL is for. Now we either discuss this like rational human beings and you get off my nutz and HELP make this relationship work or we decide this marriage is NOT worth saving and you can go find someone else to berate.
To Love someone is to Trust someone. If there is not trust, there is no Love. If you are at fault for being dishonest for whatever reasons, you have to earn that trust back. You have to first ask God for the strength and guidance, to do what is right. Then you need to correct the dishonest things that has happened. Then you take one day at a time. First Love God and yourself. Then everything will fall into place.


Once you have the Love of yourself with the understanding of yourself, she will need to find some trust and love in herself. She sounds like she has a control issue. You both need to seek some kind of counseling, individually then together. If your relationship is to move together. it will take time, understanding and Faith from both of you. Good Luck, and God Bless you.

Trust issues with my woman any friendly advice?

I've been with my g/f for six months, she's four months pregant now and i feel like dumping her becuse I don't trust her hanging around this 50 yro guy and its giving me mental anguish I am right or wrong for this. ALso i have brought it up to her a few times she resures me its only a ';plutonic relaship'; they were friends before i knew her. should i buy into it or is she scamming me in some type of wicked game?Trust issues with my woman any friendly advice?
Maybe she's hanging out with the old guy because she sees him as a type of father figure?


She is pregnant, and that means moodiness.


Don't get paranoid, try to trust her.


You guys don't want to have a messy relationship already set for your baby.Trust issues with my woman any friendly advice?
If you have had no trust issues before, then why would you have them now. I have had several friends that are male that I have known long before my husband, but that is all they are, just friends.

Jealous, trust, betrayal in the past.. advice please.?

my boyfriend has done things to betray my trust in the past, talked to ex's behind my back, had a flirting problem a few years back, lied about people he had sex with that he was still hanging out with, etc..





my question is.. how am I supposed to just.. trust him? I have jealousy issues now, and I can't help it.. he expects me to just forget everything he has done and start with a clean slate..





i've never done anything to betray his trust, especially anything dealing with unfaithfulness.. now he's never cheated, and it's not that i'm worried about that, but i'm more so worried that he'll revert back to his flirting days or talk to ex's on the phone.. btw i caught him in all of these, he never fessed up, so i also realize he has honesty problems.. and i feel like by getting caught.. he is simply learning how not to get caught next time.





how do i trust him now? it causes issues in our relationship and i hate it.. I want to let it go, but it's to hard.Jealous, trust, betrayal in the past.. advice please.?
I am going through the same thing as you right now. All I can tell you is to hang in there. If you know you arent in the wrong then you have nothing to worry about. Just tell him how you feel and what your concerns are and maybe there will be a logical answer. It may not be the right one you want but at least its an answer...and I know how you feel when you say that you want to let it go but...you just cant. I have the same issue right now. I just told my boy how I felt and things are starting to get a little better. Ask him to go places with him. Dont talk about the past as much. And dont snoop..please girl do not snoop. I did and it ended up bad. just talk to him. and if hes rude or disrepectful to you then you dont need him at allJealous, trust, betrayal in the past.. advice please.?
you know there is no easy answer to this question! I have the same issues, with my bf, but it because of my ex! Except for really, i have no reason not to trust my bf! i guess what im trying to say is if you cant trust your bf then let it go just make sure it not your insecurities! talk to him and tell him how he make you feel if he love you he will do anything to change that for you!
you dont need to let it go.this guy is not worthy of your time, he's obviously not true to you.you dont need to trust him. you cant let him walk all over you.you need to find a guy whose right for you and it isnt him.good luck
That's a great question! I'm dealing with the same thing until a month ago I never had proof that my husband was cheating or talking to other girls but ';friends';, until one day I read some emails. I'm trying to get over it but I can't it's still in the back of my head. Girl we should just face it but we love these men and let's hope that they don't miss up again. I wish you the best of luck!
I believe you are making a mountain out of a mole hill*...You are still reliving the past and his behavior from the past*... The past is a nice place to visit, but quit living in the past*... Focus on the present and the future*... You are spoiling the present and future by living in the past*...
one of the main bases in a relationship is trust, if it isnt there, there isnt really a relationship.


id move on if i were you


good luck
Here's my advices:


First, ask yourself if this guy is worthy to be around with. Mostly likely not, since he will do it again in the future when your look might not be what it used to be. We all age, and guys like this guy will definitely find younger folks.


My advice is get out while you can, before you hurt yourself and your love ones more with this potentially bad realationship.





good luck!!
Have you ever considered that you may not be able to trust him. After the thing you say he has done it would be hard to, it would be undeserved trust and asking for trouble. I'm not saying he is horrible and wont realize what is wrong with what he did at some point but he may need a few years to grow up. you know what i mean.
Sounds like my relationship.After enough times of him lieing to me and him cheating on me twice ...... I got drunk and kissed another guy.Now we both don't trust each other. Right now were on a break so we can learn how to communicate better with eachother. If this doesn't work than its just not meant to be.


Just try to talk to him about ur issues.If after a couple times he doesn't get it than take a break.
Awe love :( if he really loved you, he wouldn't do those things, and you know this in your heart. I understand it's hard to let go.. but when a man can't be trusted, your gambling with not only your sanity, but your trust and compassion for any man after him. Yes.. it's hard to let go, and I know this. I've been in similar situations as you most of my life, and I've forced myself to move on. It's done me good, but a little bad, as well. If you keep going with this guy.. you will end up being hurt more than you would be just giving him up and letting go, I can assure you. Don't want that to happen. Please, do something before you get yourself hurt, more than you feel now.
move on his not worth your time you deserve someone better if he really cared about you he would help you get over these issues and make you feel better and hes not stop stressing over this guy get a new guy whos worth starting over with and having a clean slate
ask him to stop tell him this hurts you if he don't he probably doesn't care so move on . there r way to many people out there in the world.








6 billion and counting
dump his ***
trust is something that has to be earned,talk to him and explain how you feel,thathe caused alot of painful wounds,that the insecurities you have he caused,if he still refuses to do anything about it ,your better off without him.dont let him walk all over you or take your kindness for weakness.

Need some advice. How can I trust anyone again? who should I choose?

I have this band and it was 3 of us (great friends that have known each other since kindergarten)





my best friend (bassist) and I kinda disconnected over the years and so did our band plus he lived kinda far away and (at the time) he didn't have a car.





MEANWHILE


my other friend (drummer) and I kept playing music looking for people to try out. We found someone we knew once who could play bass for us. (there had been something in the past where I heard he had this big crush on my girlfriend) but being the person that I am I looked passed that thinking that was about 2 years ago. Who cared right?








well we were in a band for a year together he was a great bass player


then a few months ago I kicked him out because I found out he still did have this crush on her.





He asked her out numerous times, attempted to kiss her and this all happened behind my back.





So i was just disgusted, what kind of douchebag does that to a friend.





so now hes mad at me talking crap to me all the time saying I'm a bad person and all this.








while he WAS a good bassist for the band, I can no longer trust him.








we need to look for someone else again








how do I get over this feeling of distrust for everyone. I feel like no matter who I pick I'm going to get stabbed in the back








AND





my best friend (who has a car now) comes down to jam with us I would love to have him in the band but his playing skills are not ';convenient'; for the band. He's not as good as what we've had in other words.











should I pick someone I trust over skills?Need some advice. How can I trust anyone again? who should I choose?
The band is your business. Hire the best player you can so jobs will be easier to get. Girlfriend- Do you trust her? If you cant trust her let her go. If she cheats on you with one of the guys in the bane Dump her. The band is your job and your way of making a living. Girls will come and go until you find the perfect one and then no matter what some guy does or says she can handle it and you would trust her completely. Then you have the right girl. Remember if your band is going to ever make it big the girl in your life has to take second place because you have to put yourself first. Once the band makes it then it time to play around with the girls. Good luck

I went to friends for advice, but lost my girlfriends trust in return, what can I do to get it back?

I really need help here, I love this woman too much to let her go. I've practically cried infront of her, written her love poems that I do, and told her how I really feel. I say ';I love you'; and shes pauses, then says, ';ok'; or ';yea';. Please I need expert help, I need her.I went to friends for advice, but lost my girlfriends trust in return, what can I do to get it back?
ntimacy relies on trust. If want to get more intimate with your partner, you have to build the trust in your relationship. Sounds pretty easy, but what could trip you up is the underlying fears. You鈥檙e afraid of opening up; they鈥檙e afraid of being hurt. The great irony of trust is: you want trust because you are afraid of being hurt, yet your fear is what prevents you from gaining trust. Here is how to help build trust in your relationship.


Instructions





* STEP 1: Know who you are and make sure your partner knows, too. Don鈥檛 be afraid of who you are. Until you are comfortable inside your skin, trust is always going to slip through your fingers.


* STEP 2: Build respect for yourself. When you respect yourself as a person, you give others good reason to believe that you will respect them as people.


* STEP 3: Let your actions match your words. When your partner can see that what you do and say line up, the trust is easy to come by.


* STEP 4: Meet adversity in the relationship head-on and solve the problem. Letting things linger unresolved siphons away the trust because it puts a damper on the momentum of a relationship.


* STEP 5: Give the person a reason to trust you. Share the exploits of your day. Talk about your plans for the future. Always be open and honest about what you are doing, and when you are doing it.


* STEP 6: Be calm. Ever hear someone describe their partner as their rock? Being calm gets you there.


* STEP 7: Talk to each other about everything, not just about the important stuff.


* STEP 8: Compromise when facing a problem. By showing that you are willing to bend, your partner will also made adjustments.





Overall Tips %26amp; Warnings





* Have faith in yourself and the other person. Belief influences outcomes in relationships.


* Don鈥檛 forget that learning to trust is just as important as building trust.


* Avoid secrets. Nothing ruins trust faster.


* Don鈥檛 lie about what you will be doing on the weekend with your friends. Be open and honest.


* Don鈥檛 deny your needs. You鈥檒l wind up resenting the other person. Ask instead why you think your needs must go unmet in order for trust to flourish.I went to friends for advice, but lost my girlfriends trust in return, what can I do to get it back?
maybe shes not ready yet to say i love u. to some people those words mean alot and they dont say them to they mean it. if she dont love u yet dont worry doesnt mean she dont care just means shes not to that level yet chill and give her sometime!
Trust has to be EARNED and you cannot navigate how long it could take for it to happen. Don't push her on the trust thing. Just make it your job to 'stay on point' by BEING HONEST WITH HER and don't do anything stupid like what you did any more. STOP involving other people in your personal life involving her. Keep treating her with the respect she's looking for or you will be dumped!!
Well it sounds like you're obsessed. give her a little space. You don't need her. You want her. Seek GOD.
IM SORRY TO SAY BUT IT SOUND LIKE SHE DOES NOT FEEL AS YOU DO, IF SHE DID SHE WOULD EXPRESS


HER FEELING FOR YOU AS YOU HAVE TO HER, TIME


'TO FIIND SOMEONE THAT WILL APPRECIATE THE


LOVE OF A GOOD MAN. SHE NOT THE ONE. TRUST ME.

Advice on gaining the trust of my girlfriends mum?

im 16 and been going out with my girlfriend for 2 months now. and she stays at mine til late on a saturday and i suggested maybe her staying over.would be nice just to cuddle up and spend the night with her but her mum just laughed sarcastically. when shes at mine she doesnt wana leave and gets down wen her mum phones to say she is picking her up. n tbh i feel down wen shes gone aswell. i enjoy being with her and spending time with her. but what can i do to convince her mum im not just some shallow twat looking to get ******* wet? i was thinking of like sitting down with her mum and telling her how i feel bout my gf etc. but my girlfriend said she would find it emarressing. so im kinda stuck :S any ideas?Advice on gaining the trust of my girlfriends mum?
If she is a good mother, she won't allow her 16 year old daughter to spend the night at your house. When you have children of your own, HOPEFULLY you will understand where she is coming from.





Also, I think based on the way you even posted this question, her mother is a smart lady.Advice on gaining the trust of my girlfriends mum?
Keep your mouth shut. If you tell her mother what you said happened, she'll definitely keep you away from her daughter. Stuff like this really makes parents worry that their baby might get into trouble sexually. So, if you want to continue enjoying her, keep it to yourself.
First off, trust has nothing to do with her mom not letting her daughter spend the night with you, that will never happen until she is 18 years old so get used to that. A way for her to trust you a little bit more is to do the following:


- listen to her moms/dads rules


- bring her home on time, even early


- be respectful at all times even if you don't agree with them





You have only been around for 2 months, seems long in teen years but in reality, it is a short amount of time, let her get used to you first......

eyeshadow

I need advice about my boyfriend! trust issues...?

okay, well, my boyfriend used to smoke weed alot.like not just once in awhile...like multiple times a day. when we started dating a year ago i told him that i didnt like it and he told me that he would stop. i personally do not smoke, and dont like it too much, especially because he is 17 (i am 15) and he has very bad heart problems.throughout the past year ive caught him smoking weed and cigarettes every now and then, and he's recently stopped smoking weed within the past 4 months. he smokes cigarettes on and off, and he finally promised me that he would completely stop today. But here's the problem: all of his BEST childhood friends smoke, and they are all his next door neighbors. he can drive as well. i have nothing against them whatsoever, they are hysterical and kind people. but he spends excessive amounts of time with them without contacting me and ignoring my calls/messages. when i finally reach him he says he was just 'chilling with the guys' or that i need to chill because nothing is wrong ( meanwhile he hasn't contacted me in 8 or 9 hours...) his best friend specifically (Chris) smokes at least 5-6 times per day, and always encourages my boyfriend to do it when he knows that he is trying to stay clean from it.he has told me that he cant hang out, and then i find out that hes actually hanging out with the people who excessively smoke. It is not my place as a girlfriend to tell him who his friends should be, but he has no friends that don't smoke so it makes it difficult for me to trust him. I love him to pieces and do not want to lose him. And I don't want to be a controlling or sound psychotic, but in order to trust him, what should I do?I need advice about my boyfriend! trust issues...?
u r in trouble as he might not stop smoking and might as a result of u putting such pressure on him decide to either cheat and or hide other things from u which in due time cause the two of u to break up. let him be. u have tried ur best - let him do as he wants .. just tell him not to smoke around u - when u get that done - then u try and do other things slowly and not forcefully cos u can loose him all together for trying to change him

I need advice, girls opinions on trust!?

I'm 18 and I have a girlfriend who has a TON of guy friends. Her best friends seem to be her ex's. I live far away from her at the moment, so I cant be there to see what she does. We both talk on the phone A LOT and tell eachother that we both want a long term relationship and want to be living together in the future. We both love eachother.


The problems I'm having is when she spends time at one of her ex's place. She doesnt hang out with them a lot outside of school, but whenever she does on rare occassions, my jealous streak rages! She always comes back then happy shes talking to me, but talking about how much fun she had that night while hanging out. And she talked about how he kept doing nice things for her even gave her a back massage and she gave him one, made soup for her when she was sick, and act all gentleman like and she just let him act this way too. and she even texts her ex's while we're on the phone talking with each other. Once she was laughing because while she was texting them she accidently misspelled loves or love, and so I asked her out of jealous instinct why she was saying the word loves in a message to them anyway, and she said ';none of your business.'; normally she can get defensive and rude like this, but then next second she can go back to ';nice and loveable caring'; girlfriend for me. Whenever she flirts with me again I get reassured in a way, she knows that I'm going to be seeing her soon too and that I'll be permanently living there in several months. And she even told me that after her ex left, her mom said ';why did you dump him again?'; her response was ';one, he wasnt a very good boyfriend, and two, he has a girlfriend.'; so i dont know what to take from this, I love her so much and I want to trust her. what should i do?I need advice, girls opinions on trust!?
If theres no trust in a relationship, there is no relatonship.





Maybe shes just telling you these things to make you jealous and make you want her more.


My boyfriend always used to tell me about how he was flirting with other girls + hanging out with them, so i decided to get even.


Everytime he mentioned another girl, id mention another guy.


He hated it but it worked.


He barely mentions other girls these days, and when he does, he reassures me that he loves me and not any 1 else.





Maybe you should try talking to your girlfriend, and tell her that its bothering you that she spends so mch time with her ex's.


You have to be honest with her or else she'll never know.


Hope Ive Helped :) x

I want expert advice on how to trust people that deserve trust and where those people are.?

My entire life no one has really helped me out of an abusive living situation eventhough so many people who EVERYONE said I should trust knew about what was happening to me.





My therapist was famous for being an excellent therapist and did not help me. Everyone blamed me for not talking about the issue, but no one actually helped me move into a safe place and promised me safety.





The police refused to help me and said that it was my fault for not talking. There is now an investigation but I was not offered a safe place to live or a mental institution to go to or any concrete advice by actual therapists.





Where can I find people who do not seem insensitive or insulting? How can I feel safe? Where is a decent therapist? I have seen several and they have all been rude and insensitive.I want expert advice on how to trust people that deserve trust and where those people are.?
i wrote to the national alliance for the mentally ill for help with various things and they sent me a nice long email with various links. my topic was a little different but they are very, very empathetic there, whether you have been given the label of mentally ill or not... so far, in my seekings, which have not been many yet, they have given me some things to check out. I also heard that oprah's site has some helpful links. Abuse situations can be very EERIE, very bizarre....for starters, you may want to research passive aggressive behavior on google. You will recognize the behaviors. You will feel VALIDATEDI want expert advice on how to trust people that deserve trust and where those people are.?
There are support groups for abused and battered women. If you don't find you can talk to any of your friends, and you are finding no relief. Maybe those can help you out. Just be careful you actually listen to the people who have actually recovered and not the bitter people

Advice on gaining the trust of my girlfriends mum?

im 16 and been going out with my girlfriend for 2 months now. and she stays at mine til late on a saturday and i suggested maybe her staying over. her mum just laughed sarcastically. when shes at mine she doesnt wana leave and gets really down. n tbh i feel like **** wen shes gone aswell. i enjoy being with her and spending time with her. but what can i do to convince her mum im not just some shallow twat looking to get my dick wet? i was thinking of like sitting down with her mum and telling her how i feel bout my gf etc. but my girlfriend said she would find it emarressing. so im kinda stuck :S any ideas?Advice on gaining the trust of my girlfriends mum?
i am a female and 16, and have 2 serious relationships, and sorry but it is just the way girls mums are. mine was very protective. and only let me stay at my boyfriends, the 2nd relationship, after 4 months when she knew it was starting to get somewhere. but it would always be on another room .maybe stay at hers first so her mum can see that nothing is going on. and gain her trust. but my mum never let us alone or anything and hated us going upstairs. it is just somthing you are gong to have to do. and try and get the house to yourself at yours ;)

Would you trust a past cheater ? Need advice?

I feel in love with a divorced woman who cheated on her husband a few times she has kids and was trapped in the marriage and extremly un happy for years . Now we are in love and have been together for over a year and she has not cheated or gave me any reason to doubt her I show her love cna she knows how much I care for her and she said that she has never been so in love in her entire life . We are in our fourties and both have kids we are talking about getting serious but the thing that sets me back is that I am onstantly worried about her cheating on me when we are not together or she is late , or did not call whwhen she was supposed to I start wondering and usually I Imagine the worst but she always explains what has happened for the delay without my asking . I don;t let on about my fears but I think she suspects I dont totally trust her . I love her so much and want to trust her but part of me is scared to take a chance because I would feel like such an idiot if she did cheat .Would you trust a past cheater ? Need advice?
I am 38 and left my abusive marriage after 18 years. I was a cheater. I have been in a monogamous relationship for almost 2 years now. I made the consious effort and choice to not be a cheater. I feel like I was only a cheater because of the terrible marriage. I was 17 when i got pregnant by my x and I had grown up with an alcoholic mother so I think i was just so used to being in a bad/abusive relationship that I didn't leave.


But I really like being a faithful person and dont want to be what i was and wont be.


Now, do I think about it?


Yes, but I am 38 and always ALWAYS thinking about sex.


I did call my boyfriend a few minutes ago and we have a date for 10 after I get home from work.


He's got everything I need.


~Peace~Would you trust a past cheater ? Need advice?
once a cheater is always a cheater
It would be hard, I suppose, but a persons past is the past!! We are only human and we all make mistakes. Some worse than others. Maybe she never had the love before. Maybe you have shown her true happiness. I am sure she has learned from her mistakes in the past. Until she gives you a reason not to trust her, leave it alone. Don't let it turn into something you may regret later on down the road.
Talk to her.Be honest with her.


Tell her your fears.


See what she says.


But yeah i understand cause if a person feels like it is OK to cheat on the person they took vows with to be honest and faithful with when it got rough. then why would feel it is not OK to cheat on someone she is just dating when it gets rough.If you talk with her and still want to get serious i would think about couples counseling and no it is never to early for help if you love someone and want to make it work.


Just know at a point if you still don't trust her then it might just be time to move on.
my thing is, if she was so unhappy in her marriage then why didn't she leave? just like most girls she will go behind his back and cheat on him. not a chance in hell would i trust her. find an honest girl
Nope, I wouldn't. I have seen friends go through that and it makes their relationships worse/unresolved. They in fact are still together and one is miserable and the other thinks everything is ok now. But there's a lack of communication there too.
If she truly loves you then she will not cheat on you. I used to be that girl, I have cheated on someone that I was in a horrible relationship that I couldn't get out of but the man I'm with now, I would never cheat on. But you must trust her completely or it will never work.
did it once do it again
If you love her, then you must put yourself out there and risk getting hurt.......trust in her completly until she gives YOU a reason to doubt her......the past is the past, concentrate in today and now. GOOD LUCK.
Well you just need to sit her down and talk to her about this. If you both love each this much then you both need to get everything out in the open before you guys get any more serious. If she truly loves you then she should be able to understand your insecurities.
Wow welcome to my world! I know exactly how you feel and the sad part is that they say if you dont trust someone unconditionally there is really no love between you and no relationship. I personally do not agree to that and i trust anyone that is more on a level of gaining my trust over years.


First of there are two types of people the ones that trust you off the jump and the one that dont trust you but let you prove them over sometime that you can.


We both probably fall into a category two when it takes time. Sometimes I feel like its my insecurities that make me feel like he will cheat on me because i may not look like a model, even though pretty close. Daymn I can be looking like a model and still worry about him going off with someone who looks even better. I mean there is always going to be that feeling. Suspiciousness is a *itch too. I hate myself when i am playing detective trying to investigate his day schedule to see where or for what reason he came home later then he usually do, etc. But you need to let it go and stop beating yourself up like that. Imagine you worrying about it for over a year, if you guys do stay together and all. You probably going to have gray hair by second year. Just let it flow. Try to trust her. I know it is hard, but she loves you. If she said she never loved anyone like this she may be right, because most of the times if people cheat is because they werent really in love with a person at the time and never were happy with them. Make sense? Now that she is with you and she is happy she may not need to look anywhere else.


Try to talk to her about things also. Just like married couple dont do (unfortunately) sit behind a table and talk to her about things you may need to improve and of course things she may need to improve to make a better relationship. See if maybe there are things she need you to work on. Because if woman have lovers out there is mainly for sex or spiritual reasons, like if she is not satisfied in bed she will be looking for a person on a side or if you dont take her out a lot and have those romantic evenings anymore she will be looking for that romantic guy to make her feel special...blah blah blah.


Oh and on another thing....you guys are not married. You've been together for a year strong, so if she is not into you to the point that she is cheating on you ....would you think she still be there with you when you are not even married and dont have to worry about children and divorce expences???





I think you are fine. Just because at some point of her life she was unhappy like you said she was looking for love and happiness some place else. She had a reason. If YOU wont give her those reasons she may not cheat ever again in her life.


Good luck in everything!
i have cheated %26amp; i am divorced now,but maybe this time she has found real love %26amp;will never cheat again,this is the case with me. ( NEVER AGAIN )


I think you will do fine ,,trust her!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
LISTEN U CAN'T JUDGE A BOOK BY IT'S COVER SO WHAT SHE MADE A MISTAKE IN HER PAST R U GOING TO CRUCIFY HER 4 IT. THERE R TIMES WHERE IN LIFE THINGS JUST DON'T GO RIGHT AND U DO BAD THINGS BUT U ALSO LEARN FROM THEM. WHAT SHE DID WAS IN HER PAST AND SHE DID NOT DO IT 2 U. GIVE HER A CHANCE PEOPLE DO CHANGE BEING PARANOID IS GOING 2 LEAVE U A VERY LONELY MAN BECAUSE IF U CAN'T TRUST HER 4 WHAT SHE DID IN THE PAST U WILL NEVER TRUST ANYONE. U HAVE 2 B OPEN WITH UR PARTNER AND BUILD THE TRUST THAT U DO NOT HAVE RIGHT NOW. IF U LOVE HER AND SHE REALLY LOVES U THEN IT WILL WORK. U CAN ALSO TALK 2 HER AND TELL HER HOW U FEEL AND THAT IF AND WHEN SHE IS NOT HAPPY WITH U 2 PLEASE LET U KNOW SO THAT WAY SHE DOES NOT GOING AROUND CHEATING ON U AND U WILL DO THE SAME IF U R NOT HAPPY U LET HER KNOW. U CAN'T B THAT PERFECT I KNOW SOMEWHERE ALONG THE LINE IN LIFE U HAVE MADE MISTAKES AND LEARNED FROM THEM. A RELATIONSHIP IS BASED ON TRUST, HONESTY AND RESPECT.
HE WILL DO IT AGAIN


JUST MOVE ON
no i do not believe that u can't trust a past cheater, depends on the reason she cheated. if u have no reason to believe she is cheating, than don't worry about it. if she did cheat on u it would have nothing to do with u, u would not be responsible for her actions.seems as if things are going very well for u and her, and she would have no reason to cheat, logically anyway. u have some insecurity issues, from your past, where someone let u down badly, but it has no bearing on the relationship u are in now. we have to trust, and feel secure and safe, unless u have reason to doubt her, than don't. she wants u to trust her, and she is upfront with where she is, and has been, what more could u ask for. if she were hiding something, u would be able to feel it. if she were evasive or not wanting to explain to u, u might have reason to feel unsettled, but it probably has to do with something in your past that u have not dealt with.
First of all were you one of the men that she cheated with? Anyhow it sounds like she realizes that she may have made mistakes in the past but you should not judge her if you have no reason to suspect that she is being unfaithful to you. I am sure that you have not lived a perfect life. People make mistakes but if she wanted to sleep around she probably wouldnt be in a relationship with you she would be single. Move on and don't conjure up things in your head unless you have reason to believe that she is actually cheating on you.
Stop Obsessing over whether or not she will cheat. If you do you will never be happy. Just enjoy the time you spend with her. Unless you have hard evidence do not even bring it up, EVER, b/c if you do it will tell her that you really do not trust her. You cannot assume that she will cheat on you b/c she was unhappy in her last marriage. That is not fair to either of you. If she tells you she is happy and loves only you believe her and enjoy her. If you start to accuse her she will not put up with it and it will be over anyway. Good Luck!

I don't trust men and i need advice?

my father was never there for me emotionally, and i'm really tired of trying with men, i just don't trust them, all the guys i've been with, have been the same, selfish, and only thinking of themselves. I feel like i can't depend on any guy to be there for me and give me what i need.I don't trust men and i need advice?
Men are pigs.I don't trust men and i need advice?
You indicate having dated a number of men, and found them all the same . . . well one thing constant across your dating pattern is you. That is, maybe you are just bad at picking out men, and subconsciously you are picking out men that are poor choices. Talk to your friends and family about your dating patterns, see what they think, maybe let them set you up with someone who is different from what you usually go for.





Also, try to realize you may be seeing them as something they aren't due to your not trusting your dad. Consider what you find to be evidence that a man is untrustworthy - what test they are failing - and ask yourself if that's a fair test, could you even pass the test?
u should never trust a man.


u should never trust a woman.


you should trust NO ONE
There are ';good'; men in the world; you're just dating the wrong ones. It's your behavior patterns that keep pulling you back into relationship after relationship that ends poorly with you feeling unfulfilled. Examine your patterns and determine to change them.
You can never go wrong with that kind of attitude about men.
To trust someone you first have to learn to trust yourself. I didnt have much of a dad figure either. Im married now and still find it hard to let my husband close to me. This is something your going to have to overcome...Most women who didnt have dad in their life from the start pick losers to date, because you feel like you cant do any better. Set your standards a little higher and understand you dont need a man to justify who you are.
All men arent the same. It sounds to me like the problem is your choice in men! No offense...I too had the same problem until i totally went solo for a bit and learned to love my self and respect myself...then i was open emotionally to date again and what do ya know i found a good one! I refused to settle for less than i deserved and when a man knows you are like that he has the choice to a.) treat you like a lady with respect or b.) leave you alone so he dont get rejected . its easy really...just love yourself and dont settle for less and men will instinctively know that you arent gonna take any crap from them!
you are looking for the wrong things in guys. That is a problem you have to change. Don't blame your father for your faults. You are a grown women i suppose.
i have the same problem :o( and yes it sucks, but hopefully someday you'll find that one guy that you can trust, but you have to give him a chance first





go for the nerds!
Let the gay man take on this question :) ~





Hey girl-





You know that not all guys are the same. A lot of them are asses, obviously, but thats just some guys - not all.





Sorry to hear about your father not being there for you and probably not your mother or other family too. You owe it to yourself and your mom/family to really invest time into finding the right guy and finding a committed relationship.





It does take a while to meet that right guy. Trust me - it doesnt happen overnight. You have to really work and search to find love - i don't believe it happens like *that* like we see in the movies lol





I wish you the world~





%26lt;3 your eGay friend
hope you still give chance to other guys.not all are like what you mentioned.you need a sensitive man that will love you and protect you and understand you emotionally.i'm willing to bet that someday you will meet him.
';Trust everyone, just not the devil inside them.'; The guy needs to trust you in order for you to trust him.
They're all gonna be like that, untill you start demanding more respect. The more they have to work for you, the more they'll want you. It doesn't hurt to always look hot either. Guys always want what other guys want, so stay on your (A) game!
I know it's hard when all you seem to do is find bad ones but trust me there are some good ones left out there it just takes time.... And you have to open up and trust people or no one is going to open up to you....and if you found the right one on the first time you wouldn't appreciate it so it's better that you had to deal with the wrong ones to appreciate the good ones....Just wait it out and try to open up more and someone will come into your life when you least expect it and surprise you....
NEVER trust men...make your own way and just use them for sex
donot let they know you need them a lot,when you care for yourself a little bit they will think of you if they love you
maybe it's like that because you're the one


that has to change first before falling in love.


or you just keep dating the same guys.


all men are not like that trust me if you


were to get to know me you would see


the way i am deep inside. and about your father


people say those things to make excuses


because saying my father was never around


is like saying a mother can't be independent


without a man.
Unfortunately you are doing the right thing on not trusting men in fact never ever trust no one but yourself and it is good not to depend on some one else, always remember that
aww girl thats because you have not met the right guy yet.. it is true you should not trust every guy out there but once the right comes you will trust that person! i was like that 2... just give it sometime meet new people..
Be independent. You sound too needy.





I was the same way about women and I learned that I don't need them.
Stop focusing on him and work on you. Be clear about what you desire in a mate, pray and leave it alone. When you stop focusing on a man you will get who and what you need.





Work on you and your issues. You may need to deal with all the stuff from the past and your father. I know from experience about the father baggage. Work on you, give you what you need and the rest will work itself out. Sometimes you just need a break to relax, clear your mind and refocus your vision of your life and what you want. Sometimes it means changing old patterns and really paying attention to the mistakes you made in the past. Sometimes we allow people to treat us a certain way and it takes a vigilant effort to change those patterns.





Good luck. I am still a work in progress. I don't think that ever truly changes. We can only live, learn and hopefully evolve.
Find a cute nerdy guy who has never had a girlfriend and your winner will be you.
yeah right do not depend on men.. Trust your self and turn to them only when the is need.
Well, I can certainly understand that. My dad's not around for me either, and I am leery of ending up with a guy like him. My solution is to not date 'till I have a good job and a college degree. Give the guys a little time to grow up, you know??
You are not alone one this one.


Try taking it slower with men.


Develop a few friendships with men and nothing else.


See how they measure up to the trust thing without a commitment hanging over their heads.
Whats your question? If you need affirmation, then yes us men cannot be trusted.
I'm a guy... You can trust me. Trust me!
hi its hariet you can count on me promise i think to your problem or just a suggestion you should not compare your father s guys n naiincounter mo kz different person yan eh you should respect them na lang if i where you think first kung anu lang talaga yung want mung makita sa guy kung over n sila stop entertaining them kung yun sa tingin mo ang dapat. remember guys want to hide their feelings hindi agad sila nag show ng emotion or love don s girl kung hindi pa nila totally know un girl get my point?
you need to resolve your daddy issues because you're dating the same type of men your father was

eyeshadow

2 year bf betrayed me, like this new guy but don't know if i can trust any guy. please advice?

Me and my bf broke up and a month after he went back to his country and got engaged to his ex. Wonder if she was ever an ex or not. I was totally hurt and broken and just don't wanna trust any guy anymore. But I do have some attraction for this friend of mine. Problem is I don't know if he likes me, if I can trust another guy/relation anymore. And more importantly, how do I find out if he likes me or not? So confused :-( Please help...Thanks...2 year bf betrayed me, like this new guy but don't know if i can trust any guy. please advice?
You need to stay away from your friend right now because you're still hurting, you don't want to just jump into a relationship straight out of a mess. and you also don't want your friend to be a casualty of your angst and desperation. Right now you miss being in a relationship but actually functioning in one is a whole other story. Take some time out for yourself and date. Go out with your girls, have fun, but don't corner yourself right now because the new guy will just be getting what your ex deserves and that's your anger. Give yourself a few months. If you still have feelings for your friend in a few months then cross that bridge when you get to it. Right now you just need male comfort, but don't use your friend.2 year bf betrayed me, like this new guy but don't know if i can trust any guy. please advice?
You need to stay friends with this new guy. You are vulnerable and not in a good place to start a new relationship with anyone. Because you have been betrayed that will carry into a new relationship until you have healed from the last one. Don't do that to yourself or the new guy. Work on your negative feelings about the betrayal and then start a new relationship when you can trust again.
The thing is, you should definitely forget about the jerk that hurt you like that. It's cruel and totally wrong that he did such a thing to you. What I think you should do, personally, is go to the friend, confess your feelings for him, but then say... I just need some time to think about it for a little. If he's a real friend he should understand. I hope my advice helps you, I am so sorry about what happened.
juss find out in the way he speaks to you and reacts to you.. may be he'll have a soft corner for you.... if this doesn't help just show him what you are feeling for him(don't tell him...... try to convey through signs) hope u understand... make sure it is not stupid. observe his reactions...


if there is nothing like that be normal with him again...


and always remember you can love only one and those who are close to your heart.... it may not be necessary that attraction means love...


be just with yourself...


all the best for your love...
in my opinion i would say, go for this new guy. you only live once, if you dont you will probably start questioning yourself why you didnt. besides its not like you have to rush things. start seeing the guy for awhile see what he's like etc... then when you know defiently what you feel. start from there
You have to give this new guy the benefit of the doubt, give him a chance. Try not to think of the bad things from before, if you relax then it will all be ok.
You need some time and then you will again find some nice guy you can trust on. You can start talking with your friend and when you are sure enough to trust on him you can ask about his feelings.
i know you may not care but dont go for the hottest guy you know go for someone you know you can trust
That's a very unique situation, it will most definitely not apply to all men.
let him to your heart donot to bedroom





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Your head is spinning from all the emotional turmoil, you really aren't over him yet, do you think it wise to move into another relationship with your head like that? Broken relationships and divorces are similar to a funeral, you lost something special in your life. Now you need time to grieve it, that is to say to get your head to stop spinning. At that point you will be able to trust you own instincts again to be able to tell you if something is wrong with this relationship or not. Going into a relationship with your head spinning prevents you from doing that, it becomes more like you throw yourself into it and try to make it work and you brain can't get the message to you that it isn't right. So the thing to do is back away for a while, a couple of months really, and let get your head straightened out. If this is the guy, he will be there when you are ready. If he isn't at least you didn't try to force something to happen that you would have had to regret.

Advice on boyfriend with trust issues....?

I've been dating my boyfriend for 2 months now...which isn't a long time, i know...it's not a length of time question. So, we live in a small town, where people talk. He had heard that i was somewhat of a ';slut'; i guess you could call it, which is completely NOT true. I've been with him every day for the last 2 months, so i couldn't be cheating on him or anything.





So the other night, we were talking, and he said that he didn't trust me. This bothered me. I didn't do anything for him not to trust me, so i couldn't understand why he didn't; come to find out, it's because of all of the made up rumors about me which we told to him by people i don't even know. So his exact words were...


';You can either not be with me, or be with me with the knowledge that i don't trust you.';


I think this seems unfair because i never did anything for him not to trust me, and all of a sudden he doesn't. I honestly don't think i can be with someone who doesn't trust me.


Does anyone have any opinions for me?Advice on boyfriend with trust issues....?
I know this isn't what you want to hear but you should not be dating him!





If he is going to be judgemental and distrustful based on the advice of others, instead of his own experience, then he has the issue, not you!Advice on boyfriend with trust issues....?
I think you should ditch that guy as soon as possible.


Someone who is that paranoid about trusting you cant be trusted hisself. This guy definetly sounds like he has something to hide so he is trying to turn th attention to you. You can find much better!
I will most probabley get loads of thumbs down for this answer but oh well.When i started seeing who is now my wife 16 years ago i didn't trust her 1 bit.I had no reason not too but i just found it so hard too.I thought she was far to pretty for me and i had the dirty done on me by an ex who i thought the world of.Ask your boyfriend if any ex of his as done the dirty on him before or if he thinks you r to pretty for him.I tell you now he will start trusting you eventually.Ive been with my partner now for 16 years 11 years through marriage and we have 2 boys.Good luck what ever happens anyway.Bring on the thumbs down now,lol.x
tell him how you feel


and break up with him if he continuse being a d*ck
He wants to break up with you but is giving you the option of breaking up with him so he doesn't look like the ';bad guy';.


He's listening to rumours started by guys that couldn't get anywhere sexually with you. It doesn't matter if the rumours are being started/spread by friends of his or not. If a male is telling him this he will believe him over you.


Beat him to the punch and cut off all contact with him, don't tell him you're going to do it just do it





Good luck
screw him then what is a relationship without trust?

Did i lost my trust to every man or do i have a phycological problem? I need some advice...?

I've been married for 3years w/ my ex-husband.we've been together for 5 years.And there was so many things have had happened and he cheated me for several times...Now i found someone who is,loving,trustworthy,caring,understandi鈥?most of all he love and accept my child. He treated her as his own child.But since i have had a difficulties w/my ex, i felt like i recieved too much attention from him. I dont know how to give him everything he gave me in return.I love him and i miss him everytime he is away but its just like too much for me.Because i have never got those much attention from my pass relationship.am i lossing my trust to every man or do i have a phycological problem?This is the kind of personality i've been looking for from my husband but i did'nt get it.what would i do to give him in return?if u wonder if i still want to go back w/my ex-husband,,,the answer is no.I'am just having a hard time to figure out what's wrong with me and i felt its unfair for my BF now...Did i lost my trust to every man or do i have a phycological problem? I need some advice...?
I think a lot of woman go through this when they go from a bad relationship to a new, ideal relationship. it's hard to look at the situation with your new boyfriend and how great he is, and not compare and remember your relationship with your ex husband and how bad that was. Your totally normal! You have to think hard about this and learn to put the past behind you and start a clean slate with this new guy. He hasn't done anything to make you not trust him right? your should trust him 100% if thats the case. Remind yourself he is not your ex. It's hard i know not to compare a new relationship to an old one. Everyone does it! If this guy is great, you want to keep him around so try to leave the past in the past and focus on your new life with this guy. Maybe write down all the ways that he is NOT like your ex husband and remember those things when you start to worry about your past. You will be fine and nothing is wrong with you! Your just human and it's how we all think when things like this happen. i've done it! Good luck honey!

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I need some advice/opinions about re- trusting a boyfriend who have brooken trust many times....help!?

I have been with my boyfriend for going on 5 yrs, we are still really young, I 'am 19 he's 22. We have 2 kids together. One is 2 and the other is barley 3 wks. I love him very much. But he has really screwed up my trust towards him, by lying and cheating! He thinks that I have cheated and lied to him in the past too. Even though I haven't, which I don't think he'll ever believe me. My question is how do I put my trust back into him when he's done this lying and cheating stuff so many times? Should I just force myself to trust him? He says he did all that stuff cause he was young and we were going through alot of problems, and that he would never do it again. I think our relationship is suffering from being constantly with eachother cause we can't even trust eachother to go right downtown w/out the other person. Should I let him have his life back and do you think I will get mine back? What should be some circumstances of him and I being able to go out alone or with our own friends?I need some advice/opinions about re- trusting a boyfriend who have brooken trust many times....help!?
First of all you need to confront him and ask him if he truely wants his single life back. If he does, as hard as as hurtful it may be, you need to break free from each other, maybe he will miss what he had and realise he wants his family back. On other hand if he does, tell him that he has really hurt you and he needs to put that trust back into your life. Its not easy, but if you really love him then you will learn to trust him - it will be a long and uneasy road. If he loves you, he will know youre hurt and he has to be patient with you - you need to be patient with him too if he is trying to mend things. Another option but is yours and only yours to decide, is to consider a break and let him see what life without you is like for a couple of weeks or maybe a month, but it would take a tough heart to do that considering you have trust issues, you dont want to worry your heart out wondering if he is with another woman (because to him, he would be in his rights to do so.) good luck, I myself have trust issues, my man hasnt cheated on me but ive had so many cheaters and lying boyfriends in the past that i find it hard to relax and trust in my relationship with him. he is patient with me, and believe me if youre strong you can get through it whether you stay together or not.I need some advice/opinions about re- trusting a boyfriend who have brooken trust many times....help!?
Try to re-trust only if you want to be re-hurt. Obviously he thinks that being young and having problems between you is a valid, justifiable reason to cheat. He's accusing you of cheating to take the focus off of his wrongdoing, and maybe because he doesn't trust himself. Unless you both get some couples counseling and you both put in the necessary effort (100%) to make things right between you, you are setting yourself up for more heartache and sitting on the edge of your seat. Trust is very difficult, almost impossible, to re-establish once it's been broken..
Well obviously he does not love you enough to fully commit to you, i.e. you two are not married even though you have children together. If the children were your idea, you cannot make someone love you and commit totally to you just by having a child. I can understand being young and having one accidental child, but not two. Did he want you to get pregnant and have the 2nd child? If so, you two both need to think of yourselves as a family unit and not as two seperate individuals trying to co-exist. If he did not plan the second child, he may be starting to feel trapped with children and responsibilities. You can never go wrong when adhering to Biblical morals and ethics. They protect us from so much harm. (My husband had all kinds of women throwing themselves at him when he was single and doing all kinds of things sexually hoping he would get married. When we started dating, I told him that if he wanted to have sex with me then he better put a wedding ring on my finger. Guess who he married?, NOT the women who tried to lure him with sex.)





My husband is alllowed to go out with his male friends anytime he wants. I have never checked up on him. I know where he is going and what time to expect him home and he always checks with me first to see if we have any family thing planned. The key to our happy and trustful marriage is RESPECT. We respect each other and trust each other to do the right thing. We also have an understanding that if we want to go screwing around (which we don't) that we will get a divorce first, then go act like we are single. However, since you are not married, your boyfriend theorhetically is still single and will always think like a single man.





If you want this relationship to work, let him go and tell him to come back home when he is ready to commit to being a married man and father.
If there is no trust then there is no real relationship. If this is repeated behavior by him, he isn't going to change and will resent you for going everywhere with him. Without trust, the relationship won't survive and it doesn't appear that he is very trustworthy. I believe you would be better off ending the relationship and thus ending the stress of constantly wondering who he is with and what he is doing.
Well, how many time's would you put your hand into a fire and get burned before you would stop doing it? If he was a fire you would do it over and over until you not only got burned, but burned to death.
You have been with him five years and got two babies, how many more kids do you want to be stuck with before you leave his sorry butt. But you guys are not married so he can go wherever he wants with or without you whenever he wants.
Uh, he's 22, he's still 'young'





Don't take him back. You guys can be friends, and for the sake of your children, should be, but, you should not let him back into your romantic life.
get fat
girl, what are you doing with your life? I'm 19 too. You already have two kids?? You are in deep sh*t. You need to kick his butt to the curb. Most likely he is going to cheat on you again. and a relationship is nothing without trust. No offence, but I am going to say this because you really need help. How stupid can you be?? I mean honestly. I hope you can afford to take care of those two kids by yourself because you guys sound like you are going to break up real soon.
you know if he treats you like this already i think he will always be that way you cant force yourself to trust someone because youll never be sure yourself if you trust him or not, yes your relationship will suffer because you dont trust each other . yeah thats no way to live happy ,always wondering ,that thinking stuff will drive you crazy just by itself .just need to follow your natural instincts or go to counseling or be content with what you have.
Don't give the sucker another chance.
Well if he had done stuff to you in the past, and you feel that you can'y trust him then don't. becayse isn't the point of a realtionship to trust each other? if you can't trust eachother thatn whats the point of being in a relationship? you are just going to end up getting hurt. Let go
It seems that you already are content on being hurt by this man. I


understand the power of love and all but is it really worth all the heartache and pain? Talk to him and at him and tell him how you feel. Let him know that you do love him but that sometimes you don't feel any love in return. The trust thing is going to be an issue because of the cheating in the past which you were willing to deal with when you took him back in gthe first place. If you truely believe that he is still being unfaithful then you want to just stand up and leave. It's not worth being treated wrong over and over again and the children will sense this and it could possibly have negatice effects on them as well.
he's cheated and apparently doesn't love you as much as you love him. the only reason that r keeping you two together might be the kids, but if that is the reason you should break, if hes not going to change, ask your self this, do i really want to be with a guy that doesn't want to be with me? good luck
you shouldn't be with someone who would EVER cheat on you whether he thought you were doing it or not. Just stay friends for the kids





ADD ON: No he should not go out to the bars without you.....you have got a MAJOR cheater on your hands!
Dude you have kids and only a boyfriend. That is just wrong.
dont give him another chance cuz he lied and cheated.I think your life would be different cuz u got two kids
The trust is gone. You have 2 kids to think about - you don't need him. Get out NOW and get on with it.


Go see a lawyer or Child Protective Services to get child support started. He will probably be furious because he's used to having his way, so you might want to go to a safe place for a while - a shelter or your parents' home, etc.


Trust me - you will not regret getting out of this bad relationship.
he has no respect for you at all...ditch the loser!
thats a big issue.. Trust is a big part of a realtionship,if their is none then the realtionship cna not work..looks like you guys tried alot but nothing could work out if i was you.. move on..ud find someone else better.. but take time to heal b4 u get back on ur feet .. trust me its for the best..good luck!
Forget about him.


If he did before he'll do it again.
Why is it that every woman that gets abused and disrespected by some immature jerk always give LOVE as the reason they suffered through his b/s? What about love for yourself? If you love yourself then realize that you are nobody's doormat. After 5 year of this madness, you should know by now that he is not the one for you. Is this the example of a man you want your kids to see as they grow up? Stand up for yourself, get up off your butt, and get rid of this abuser! Take some time off and focus on your children and then find someone who will treat you the way you deserve to be treated!!! I wish you all the best.

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Help! i knwo this isnt a religion question but i trust your judgement and advice?

i've been feeling strange in the last couple weeks...i've been anxious about alot of things including grades, yet lazy about my school work...i'm an athelete but i've been feeling dizzy when i do very low impact activity, such as backspotting someone at cheerleading...i'll be hit with jittery spells...i've been paranoid i'm eating too much when i'm sure i'm not...a couple times i'll be hit with the urge to freak out and cry and stomp and rant ( i have no idea what about)...i find myself tapping my fingers on my desk constantly





...i'm not sure if this is stress or what...i feel liek somethings wrong and i feel out of control...i HAVE been doign fun things and relaxing but nothign helps...





i'm working on a big paper due tomorrow thats stressing me out and tonight i was worried something was wrong with my bf (though he insists nothing is)...not sure if thats what caused tonight...i dont feel like it is...i'm really worried about this especially the racing thoughts and tapping...Help! i knwo this isnt a religion question but i trust your judgement and advice?
The symptoms you describe could be caused by the pressures of carrying a heavy credit hours load.


But it also sounds like the symptoms of either high blood sugar or low blood sugar. Both can cause panicy feelings, weakness, nervous shakiness, dizziness, and depression.


Please get your blood sugar checked to see if the sugar levels are too high or too low.Help! i knwo this isnt a religion question but i trust your judgement and advice?
Sounds like you are having panic attacks. I suggest you go to a doc for some therapy, and perhaps some meds (if you feel it's necessary.. if therapy is enough, that's great!). It's possible you have just let too much pile up and you are feeling overwhelmed. Talking to someone outside your situation (therapist) can be a great way to get a clear perspective.
you are under a lot of pressure and tension


stress out, relax, chill, take a break


don't worry be happy


:)
it is most likley stress also i think u need to talk to some one like a good friend about this too
Do you have periods of depression? This strikes me as a manic episode.





Or are you also very thirsty often? The dizziness and hunger could be an imbalance, possibly diabetes?





I am not a doctor, I'm just throwing my two cents in. Regardless you should see your school nurse tomorrow and ask your mom to make an appt. for the doctor.





Perhaps the school counselor as well, if it is only stress that should help too.
It really does sound to me like it's just anxiety causing all this.





Make sure you are eating and drinking enough, and getting enough sleep.





Ask your school counselor for some ways they might know to help you develop coping skills to deal with the stress.





Maybe you could journal for a few weeks and see if there is a pattern to your anxiety -- what seems to be triggering it. Then once you recognize what is triggering it, you will be better equipped to deal with it.
Possibly just stress, but could be something more serious like panic attacks or bipolar disorder.


You should ask to speak to a doctor about this, make sure you are physically okay (no hormonal imbalance) and check you also for psychological imbalance.


Yes, see your doc and describe all the symptoms, don't be afraid, it is not a sign of ';weakness'; or anything.


Hope you feel better soon!!!!
1. Prayer


2. Therapy


In that order
Could be hormones. But you should have a check up.One of my Older daughters ,(shes 21) Started having heart palpitations and feeling very strange. She would have mood swings and freak out to.I took her for a check up and after all the tests came in It turned out to be Hyper- Thyroid ism.If your bodies chemical balance gets out of whack you can experience all kinds of abnormal feelings.Even Hallucinations! After my daughter started her thyroid medicine she returned to her old self again.So get a check up and tell the Doc everything that you've been experiencing .Do not leave anything out.I hope you are feeling better soon.
God Bless you. I am not gonna say too much about what you've been feeling strange in the last couple weeks....so that we can rebuke it that sickness in Jesus name!





Hope you believe in prayers and let your pastor or your elders who have a good heart in the church to pray over you for healing and peace in your mind %26amp; in your heart and to rebuke your anxiety, panic attack or convulsion attack.





Tell your parents about what you feel. Please pray and you can cry out to God to help you so that it will help to ease your problems. That is the work of the enemy trying to give you problems in life. Have faith in God. If ever you choose to go to the professional advice or a doctor, please do not forget to pray first before you do anything in your daily activities and ask guidance from God and to cover you by the blood Of Jesus.
If it's stress, there isn't too much to worry about if you don't let it get out of hand. I usually feel that way at the end of term or when I have a major project due that I haven't been procrastinating. Sometimes a good cry makes you feel LOADS better! Try it, it helps to relieve the bottled-up stress. But who knows, it could be more than just this. You should probably talk to your parents. I have a good friend that has begun to have anxiety attacks. It all began with how you have been feeling and now her attacks are so bad that it appears like she's having seizures. She's on heavy medication and is almost never at school or church.
I would say that talking to someone about this, wether it be a friend or therapist could really help. It might be the wierdest thing that is causing the attacks. Good luck. God Bless.
Since I am not a professional therapist, I can only refer you to one. It might be a good idea to see a physician as well. Tell your parents what has been going on and that you need help and then let them help you.
IT SOUNDS LIKE YOU HAVE ALOT ON YOUR PLATE RIGHT NOW.. SO MORE THAN LIKELY IT IS JUST ANXIETY.. JUST TAKE A SEC AND ASK GOD TO HELP YOU THROUGH THIS TRYING TIME AND MAYBE YOU WILL FIND PEACE..
Might want to see a doctor





And pray to Christ and ask Him to comfort you and give you peace

Would you trust a venus in aries for advice about love?

i have a venus in pisces, and find that my close friend, venus in aries, will hurt her relationships with her ideals and relationship style


she also thinks i'm too slow to take intiative and assert myself right in with guys, but as a venus in pisces--i think her venus is making her impulsively rash, and sometimes selfish?Would you trust a venus in aries for advice about love?
I am and aries sun and have a venus in aries, i can relate to your friend although i didn't think it was something that another female would notice (about how us aries in venus people treat men/relationships). I wouldn't trust my advice on love, so to answer your question no, and if you read the following tid bit there is not much emotion or heart involved that would make you want to take advice from a venus in aries person.





Venus in Aries





Venus in Aries people flirt by being up-front, direct, and even daring. They try to win you over by expressing how enterprising and independent they are. Their style of expressing love can be maddeningly ';me';-centered, but the right person for them will find this approach charming. People get turned on by Venus in Aries' aura of innocent charm, even when they are being childish and impatient. Venus in Aries men and women behave in a childlike, fun-loving manner in love. They are turned on by energy and activity. Turn-offs include a relationship that is considered stuffy or too ';mature';, vagueness, and beating around the bush. In love, Venus in Aries people are hopelessly addicted to the conquest. In order for a relationship to remain fresh and new for them, they require plenty of stimulation.


Would you trust a venus in aries for advice about love?
aries anything gets on my nerves. aries anything is bossy, know it alls, stuck up, self centered, bad tempers that can easily be cut down to size with a mean comment to deflate their ego...ugh they just get on my nerves
At first I was gonna say no but I would have to since my own Venus is in Gemini.. and I definitely would want people to trust me even though people tend to think Gemini's lie more often but I'm extremely honest :)
two different peeps with too different takes. Neither is wrong, both are just being themselves.
this is all a bunch of BS

Getting a total hip replacement but I don't trust the Doctor...any advice?

I'm 21 and I'm scheduled to have my right hip replaced next month. I want to try the minimally invasive replacement where they don't cut the muscles but my hospital is giving me the run around for the X-Ray's.





They do the minimally invasive surgery at a different hospital but I was told I can get a referral.





I asked the doctor at my hospital about the minimally invasive procedure and he said he would rather get it done right the first time. I have only heard good news about this new technique. It seemed to me like he was only in it for the money, which made me feel very uncomfortable.





I want someone who has the passion to help and won't just throw me a hip.





What should I do?Getting a total hip replacement but I don't trust the Doctor...any advice?
I've had both hips replaced in separate surgeries. They were not minimally invasive approaches. My advice to you is to not get hung up on the minimal incision. If you are thin, your incision will be shorter than it would be in a heavier person. There are drawbacks to minimal incision length - one being that the surgeon can't see what he is doing as easily as he can with a longer incision. Because you are very young for a total replacement (they don't last forever) you need to be concerned with the type of bearing that is being used. If I were your age facing this surgery, I'd at least ask about ceramic bearings. They may last longer than the more traditional metal/poly bearing.





As for the scar, I have found that both of my scars have practically disappeared after several years. I made sure that I kept them out of the sun (and that includes tanning booth ';sun';) for at least a year (sun can permanently darken a scar).





Here;s a link where you can read about the pros %26amp; cons of mini-incision.


http://totaljoints.info/MINI_INCIS_TH.ht鈥?/a>


There is more than one kind of mini-incision so it isn't always clear as to what ';mini'; really means. One technique uses two small incisions instead of one larger incision. Another type might use an incision of 3-4 inches.





For the record, my incisions are 11'; long and extend from the center of my buttock to part way down the outside of my thigh.Getting a total hip replacement but I don't trust the Doctor...any advice?
if you do not trust the doctor..leave..find another
Talk to a patient advocate at your hospital, and check with the social services department to find the patient advocate. If you are not satisfied before you go under the knife, you need to ask for time so that you can do some research. Can also check with physical therapy depts at hospitals and at skilled nursing facilities (again, social services or look under nursing homes, call and ask if they have PT dept.....most of them do). PT will be able to tell you how folks have been after both procedures.





Talk with patient advocate about your feelings as well toward your doctor.





Remember, it is you who is paying them for their services, not the other way around.