this is my fifth time posting today, my girlfriend broke up with me a week ago we both want it to work really bad, long story short i lost her trust by talking to a girl who liked me after i said i wouldnt. I didnt mean to hurt her, i feel nothing for the other girl she is just a friend, i have since broke contact but our relationship took a toll after i lost her trust, the passion flew out the door, no sex, no intimate moments, nothing anymore. i became jealous and saw every other man as a threat and pushed her even farther away. we went to party and she was taking pictures with guys and i flipped. i made a scene, and there was no reason, i was never like this i have just been so afraid to loose her everyone was a threat to me. i am working on solving my part and i am going to prove to her i can be myself again. She is my whole world and i love her with every fiber in my body, but is there any way i can help speed up the trust regaining process?PLEASE HELP HOW TO I REGAIN TRUST i need as much advice as possible please take the time.?
Well why did you talk to the girl in the first place??
She's obviously not your whole world if she asked one thing of you and you failed to do it. She's off to find someone she can trust now.
She can smell a snake. Good for her.
PLEASE HELP HOW TO I REGAIN TRUST i need as much advice as possible please take the time.?
No , cuts and bruises take time to heal and so do relationships, You may have blown it, women hate you talking to a woman and you hate the opposite, it sounds a little like double standards here. When the intimacy is gone that fire can be impossible to start again. Women are good haters as they never forget.
You need to calm down %26amp; let life happen as it will. You already flipped out %26amp; now you're having a panic attack over trying to rush a resolution. Calm the f*ck down. Nobody likes a stress case.
try harder.
Trust is hard to get back once broken, actions speak louder than words....good luck
The only way to earn her trust is to be 100% transparent and prove to her that you will do what you say you will. No more saying one thing but doing another. You have to mean what you say and follow through.
It will take time and she will continue to question whether you mean it or not, so if she matters as much as you say she does, be patient with the process.
Plus, no more freaking out and making a scene. That will only drive her away more.
Well, dont think the the word sorry will solve it. Actions speak louder than words. I dont know her personally, so I do not know what she herself likes... but if that were me I would want alot of love and affection. Basically worship the ground she walks on. It takes time to heal the wound that is loss of trust. Do NOT rush her, or start to bring it out on her as if it is her fault. That WILL push her away. If all else fails... it will be up to her to forgive you on her own time.
Tuesday, April 27, 2010
Don't know who to trust him or her...need advice?
I had a brief sexual relationship with this guy for a few months.It was something that just happened wasn't meant to but did.He happened to be the best friend of an associate of mine(which is a girl).I asked him beforehand, if he thought it wuld be a problem with her, and I asked him would it effect their friendship, he assured me that it wouldn't because they were just close friends from junior high school.Anyhow, he broke it off with me, he said that he didn';t like me anymore, and that if I called him again he would tell everyone my business.I said okay no problem.The very next day his best friend calls me(keep in mind I haven't heard from her in eight months) to volunteer at an event that he was hosting.I never returned her call, so now when i see her she doesn't speak to me, she looks at the ground and ignores me, when I see him he doesn;'t speak to me as well,however I did run into him and he smiled at me and called me over to him so that ';we can talk'; but I told him I had to go.Don't know who to trust him or her...need advice?
Don't beg for crumbs, your no squirrel....these guys aren't your friends to begin with. Lose them like bad habits and move on and smile.
';Good Ridden';
Forget their names.....and tell them to forget yours.
As far as him, he used you like toilet paper.Don't know who to trust him or her...need advice?
It sounds like he told her what happened. Since she's not talking to you, and he was such a jerk over the whole thing, don't believe either one.
he probably ran his mouth to her and got her on his team, now when she isn't around he probably wants some more of it on the side ?
you didnt do anything wroung. but, i guess thats what happends when you get mad at each toher. your just scaed when you say grats to her. why? becuz, you think she will ignore you. and you dont want to feel embarressed! he does like you, but, maybe he just wants to break up with you. i dont no. try to be friends with her. i no its hard but i belive you can do it. dont you? (btw tommaro i gotta talk to the whole school for a speech thingy)
I don't think you did anything wrong. Were those to sexually involved? I hope you get through this. Plus he was a asshole for trying to scare you the way he did. I wish I can meet a guy that picks on women like this so I can knock they teeth down they throat. If you need a friend feel free to holla anytime.
To be honest he just used you for a quick lay. My advice is to just stay away and learn from your mistakes
Don't beg for crumbs, your no squirrel....these guys aren't your friends to begin with. Lose them like bad habits and move on and smile.
';Good Ridden';
Forget their names.....and tell them to forget yours.
As far as him, he used you like toilet paper.Don't know who to trust him or her...need advice?
It sounds like he told her what happened. Since she's not talking to you, and he was such a jerk over the whole thing, don't believe either one.
he probably ran his mouth to her and got her on his team, now when she isn't around he probably wants some more of it on the side ?
you didnt do anything wroung. but, i guess thats what happends when you get mad at each toher. your just scaed when you say grats to her. why? becuz, you think she will ignore you. and you dont want to feel embarressed! he does like you, but, maybe he just wants to break up with you. i dont no. try to be friends with her. i no its hard but i belive you can do it. dont you? (btw tommaro i gotta talk to the whole school for a speech thingy)
I don't think you did anything wrong. Were those to sexually involved? I hope you get through this. Plus he was a asshole for trying to scare you the way he did. I wish I can meet a guy that picks on women like this so I can knock they teeth down they throat. If you need a friend feel free to holla anytime.
To be honest he just used you for a quick lay. My advice is to just stay away and learn from your mistakes
I'm loosing my parents trust...I need some good advice..? (long story .. please bare with me.. )?
Let's just say, my parents are guillable. Like, really guillabe. And I take advantage of that fact.
This year, they used to say ';Go home early, have fun.';
Middle of the year it's ';Don't lie to me, have fun.';
Now this summer, it's ';Don't f-ck/mess with me.';
Big diffence, yes. But they're really guillabe ....
Anyways I go home past midnight alot, and my excuses are getting worse. So bad that today I had to say my friend had a car accident and had to be taken to the hospital, and I actually hate to FAKE cry. At first they were so mad, they were like
';Look at her, being dramatic. I won't believe your lies, etc etc';
But them, being guillabe, slowly accepted the fake truth.
Now, even though I got a lecture, I'm on the edge of the safe zone, to danger zone.
If I didn't tell them that lie, I would've lost 100% of their trust. I mean it...
In the end, after complaining to my friends how strict my parents are, they say that they just care for me. They do, I love them.. but it's summerI'm loosing my parents trust...I need some good advice..? (long story .. please bare with me.. )?
First of all, the reason you do stupid things is because you ARE a teenager and it's normal for teenagers to make bad decisions and do stupid things that can hurt them or others. Parents have to protect their teenagers from drinking %26amp; driving, doing drugs, being a criminal or a victim of crime just as they have to protect their toddlers from wandering into the street or eating a rock. From the time you're small, parents set limits and either reward or punish depending on your behavior. This is how they protect you and teach you to protect yourself.
However, even though parents know teenagers aren't always capable of making right decisions for themselves, they all want to believe that THEIR teenager is smarter or more mature than all the others. They love you, and you're special - at least to them.
This is precisely why your parents try so hard to give you the benefit of the doubt even when your excuses are so lame. It's not because they're gullible, it's because they desperately WANT to trust you and believe what you say. They want to believe that you really ARE the smart one, the mature one, the special one.
That being said, as others here have told you, it's up to you what kind of person you're going to be. Your parents try to set limits in an attempt to save you from your normal teenage lack of judgement (a.k.a. ';stupidity';) but, as you well know, they can only control so much.
If you really DO care what your parents think of you, then you need to get your act together. If you want to be treated like more of an adult, you have to ACT like more of an adult. Plain and simple.
Your parents will give you as much freedom as they feel you can handle. If you show them that you are responsible (i.e. being where you're supposed to be, coming home on time, helping around the house, etc.) they will respect you for that and see that you are being more mature.
In response, they will trust you more and give you more freedom. Then not only will you have that freedom to enjoy (responsibly, of course) but you'll enjoy it even more because you won't have to feel guilty for lying to your parents or hate yourself because you've screwed up and lost their trust.
Just think how great it would be if your parents trusted you enough to send you to Disney for a week with your best friend, or let you borrow the car, or even bought you one of your own - all because you had shown them how responsible and mature you are! Wouldn't that feel a lot better than the way you're feeling right now?
-- Think about it...I'm loosing my parents trust...I need some good advice..? (long story .. please bare with me.. )?
The day you need help because some one is stalking you and you are scared l know who you will call. Be just desserts if they ignored your phone call. l hope they do, but at the end of the day they'll come running to save their ungrateful teenager. Aren't you lucky
Since you have known your behaviour towards your parents,all you need is to reconcile with your parents and do what ever they tell you to do.PLease your parent do not plan to see you suffer.
Let's see, in your own words, you do ';do stupid things..just to prove them I should have freedom';
Surprise! That isn't going to work.
I don't know how old you are, but whether it is summer or not, you have to decide what sort of person you are, what sort of person you want to be, what sort of person you want to become.
If you don't make changes, you will be just like this in college, at work, in your career, in your marriage.
You aren't taking responsibility for your decisions or your actions, and it appears that you don't want to.
you say you need some good advice. OK - start a NEW relationship with your parents where you tell them the truth, and where if you aren't willing to tell them the truth about your actions or whereabouts - you don't do those things.
FOR EXTRA CREDIT
read the fable of ';The boy who cried wolf';
Explain how that applies to your personality, your likely future, and your relationship with your parents.
You want to prove to your parents that you should have freedom, but the only thing you are proving is that you are a good liar and they should NOT trust you. You aren't losing their trust, girl, you have LOST it. And you deserve to have lost it. You never deserved it in the first place. What do you want? Someone to tell you how to lie yourself back into their good graces so that you can continue to lie to them and become a bigger brat than you already are? Let me just tell you, you are on a slippery slope. I know a lot of people who are good liars, they manipulate the truth to fit what they need and want. And in the end these people have all ended up with a bunch of ';friends and family'; who did not confide in them, who did not believe a word they said, who did not consider them trustworthy or a good friend because in the end, no matter how well you lie, you will get caught and every time you get caught, your friends and family will come closer to seeing that you are a liar. When they realize you are a liar you will find out that suddenly you are all alone, no one trusts you, no one believes all your BS and finally, you will be sorry. But when you apologize and stop lying, people will still think you are a liar.
If you want to earn back their trust, and become a better person and hopefully avoid being a huge loser that no one trusts or cares about: try telling the truth from now on. It won't be easy, but to have people look at you and know that they trust you and think of you as a person with integrity -- that is worth the effort to change your life.
What you need to do is to stop doing things to betray their trust. If you're not allowed to stay out so late or ride the train, don't do it. I mean, I was out in Seattle one day at a concert on a skool night, and I was expecting to get home about one in the morning, and my mom knew this because I told her. Anyways, my friend's car battery died, so I had to get my mom to actually come to Seattle and help us out, so I ended up getting home about five in the morning. I normally wake up at five-thirty. needless to say, it was a long day at skool. But if I hadn't told my mom where I was going or that I was going to be back so late, she would have been pissed off when I told her I was stuck in a city that's an hour and a half away from where I live.
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You should try to listen to your parents, at least to some extent. It's okay if you love your friends and want to spend time with them, just maybe you should hang out with them in the right situations and according to what your parents think. Are you sure your friends aren't a bad influence on you? The way your parents seem to have changed their feelings towards you within as little as a year seems like you've taken advantage of them(like you said, yes). I'd suggest you say sorry to your parents, and try to not break their set rules anymore, or maybe not as much. They only want your safety and to know your okay. Parents are there to love, protect and support you.. My advice would be for you to try and gain their trust and respect back, explain to them how you feel. If you realize the way you've been acting towards them, that's already a big step and I congratulate you! But yeah.. try not to take advantage of them being guillable either, if they are it's cause they trusted you.
I am not a Bible basher, and whether you are a believer or not does not bother me. But if you can get hold of one, please read Acts, Chapter 9.
The Acts is the story of the early Christians written by the same author as the Gospel of Luke. Saul was a particularly nasty official who took great delight in making Christians suffer. A little like you with your parents really...
to much of a good thing can be bad to much to handle say.
if your going out drinking which it is very obviously you our then just dont drink so much that you are in these states when you get home. be honest to them tell them what you are doing they will listen i am sure and guide as they all ways have. the reason they have let you go out is so you can expirence what fun can be like but do not get hooked or life will slip through your fingers
I feel you.. I have lived the same life/lie for so long there's no possible way to fix it. needless to say that it started long After teenage. the only difference is that my parents were not gullible. and they never actually had 100% trust in me. not because i did anything wrong. only because we live in this society of mentally retarded men to whom any woman is a w*ore or very stupid to allow being taken advantage of until proven otherwise.
anyway, I always knew it was just a phase and that I needed to go throw it to be able to arrive where i am now. out of that shitty place and finally have my freedom. i do feel sad that I'm 26 already and that many years have passed. but i couldn't do it any other way. my other alternative was to obey and still be their good, trustworthy daughter who cannot plan her future on her own and probably will have to accept an arranged marriage.
yes, I did everything the wrong way (for them). I wanted to learn new things. i wanted to meet ppl and i wanted to have fun. a long as it wasn't affecting my studies or my work. I would have been stupid if i let it affect me in anyway. and i would definitely be stupid if they busted me cuz then i would lose everything. I did what i thought i deserved to do but as discreetly as possible. i didn't argue or fight or oppose them in anyway. this way I managed to enjoy my life and to pursue my plan to finally leave for post graduate studies abroad.
advice is, do whatever you do anyway you can without pissing them off. drop the silly excuses and prepare really good ones (only if needed) because you shouldn't need an excuse if you do it right.
wish you best of luck,
This year, they used to say ';Go home early, have fun.';
Middle of the year it's ';Don't lie to me, have fun.';
Now this summer, it's ';Don't f-ck/mess with me.';
Big diffence, yes. But they're really guillabe ....
Anyways I go home past midnight alot, and my excuses are getting worse. So bad that today I had to say my friend had a car accident and had to be taken to the hospital, and I actually hate to FAKE cry. At first they were so mad, they were like
';Look at her, being dramatic. I won't believe your lies, etc etc';
But them, being guillabe, slowly accepted the fake truth.
Now, even though I got a lecture, I'm on the edge of the safe zone, to danger zone.
If I didn't tell them that lie, I would've lost 100% of their trust. I mean it...
In the end, after complaining to my friends how strict my parents are, they say that they just care for me. They do, I love them.. but it's summerI'm loosing my parents trust...I need some good advice..? (long story .. please bare with me.. )?
First of all, the reason you do stupid things is because you ARE a teenager and it's normal for teenagers to make bad decisions and do stupid things that can hurt them or others. Parents have to protect their teenagers from drinking %26amp; driving, doing drugs, being a criminal or a victim of crime just as they have to protect their toddlers from wandering into the street or eating a rock. From the time you're small, parents set limits and either reward or punish depending on your behavior. This is how they protect you and teach you to protect yourself.
However, even though parents know teenagers aren't always capable of making right decisions for themselves, they all want to believe that THEIR teenager is smarter or more mature than all the others. They love you, and you're special - at least to them.
This is precisely why your parents try so hard to give you the benefit of the doubt even when your excuses are so lame. It's not because they're gullible, it's because they desperately WANT to trust you and believe what you say. They want to believe that you really ARE the smart one, the mature one, the special one.
That being said, as others here have told you, it's up to you what kind of person you're going to be. Your parents try to set limits in an attempt to save you from your normal teenage lack of judgement (a.k.a. ';stupidity';) but, as you well know, they can only control so much.
If you really DO care what your parents think of you, then you need to get your act together. If you want to be treated like more of an adult, you have to ACT like more of an adult. Plain and simple.
Your parents will give you as much freedom as they feel you can handle. If you show them that you are responsible (i.e. being where you're supposed to be, coming home on time, helping around the house, etc.) they will respect you for that and see that you are being more mature.
In response, they will trust you more and give you more freedom. Then not only will you have that freedom to enjoy (responsibly, of course) but you'll enjoy it even more because you won't have to feel guilty for lying to your parents or hate yourself because you've screwed up and lost their trust.
Just think how great it would be if your parents trusted you enough to send you to Disney for a week with your best friend, or let you borrow the car, or even bought you one of your own - all because you had shown them how responsible and mature you are! Wouldn't that feel a lot better than the way you're feeling right now?
-- Think about it...I'm loosing my parents trust...I need some good advice..? (long story .. please bare with me.. )?
The day you need help because some one is stalking you and you are scared l know who you will call. Be just desserts if they ignored your phone call. l hope they do, but at the end of the day they'll come running to save their ungrateful teenager. Aren't you lucky
Since you have known your behaviour towards your parents,all you need is to reconcile with your parents and do what ever they tell you to do.PLease your parent do not plan to see you suffer.
Let's see, in your own words, you do ';do stupid things..just to prove them I should have freedom';
Surprise! That isn't going to work.
I don't know how old you are, but whether it is summer or not, you have to decide what sort of person you are, what sort of person you want to be, what sort of person you want to become.
If you don't make changes, you will be just like this in college, at work, in your career, in your marriage.
You aren't taking responsibility for your decisions or your actions, and it appears that you don't want to.
you say you need some good advice. OK - start a NEW relationship with your parents where you tell them the truth, and where if you aren't willing to tell them the truth about your actions or whereabouts - you don't do those things.
FOR EXTRA CREDIT
read the fable of ';The boy who cried wolf';
Explain how that applies to your personality, your likely future, and your relationship with your parents.
You want to prove to your parents that you should have freedom, but the only thing you are proving is that you are a good liar and they should NOT trust you. You aren't losing their trust, girl, you have LOST it. And you deserve to have lost it. You never deserved it in the first place. What do you want? Someone to tell you how to lie yourself back into their good graces so that you can continue to lie to them and become a bigger brat than you already are? Let me just tell you, you are on a slippery slope. I know a lot of people who are good liars, they manipulate the truth to fit what they need and want. And in the end these people have all ended up with a bunch of ';friends and family'; who did not confide in them, who did not believe a word they said, who did not consider them trustworthy or a good friend because in the end, no matter how well you lie, you will get caught and every time you get caught, your friends and family will come closer to seeing that you are a liar. When they realize you are a liar you will find out that suddenly you are all alone, no one trusts you, no one believes all your BS and finally, you will be sorry. But when you apologize and stop lying, people will still think you are a liar.
If you want to earn back their trust, and become a better person and hopefully avoid being a huge loser that no one trusts or cares about: try telling the truth from now on. It won't be easy, but to have people look at you and know that they trust you and think of you as a person with integrity -- that is worth the effort to change your life.
What you need to do is to stop doing things to betray their trust. If you're not allowed to stay out so late or ride the train, don't do it. I mean, I was out in Seattle one day at a concert on a skool night, and I was expecting to get home about one in the morning, and my mom knew this because I told her. Anyways, my friend's car battery died, so I had to get my mom to actually come to Seattle and help us out, so I ended up getting home about five in the morning. I normally wake up at five-thirty. needless to say, it was a long day at skool. But if I hadn't told my mom where I was going or that I was going to be back so late, she would have been pissed off when I told her I was stuck in a city that's an hour and a half away from where I live.
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You should try to listen to your parents, at least to some extent. It's okay if you love your friends and want to spend time with them, just maybe you should hang out with them in the right situations and according to what your parents think. Are you sure your friends aren't a bad influence on you? The way your parents seem to have changed their feelings towards you within as little as a year seems like you've taken advantage of them(like you said, yes). I'd suggest you say sorry to your parents, and try to not break their set rules anymore, or maybe not as much. They only want your safety and to know your okay. Parents are there to love, protect and support you.. My advice would be for you to try and gain their trust and respect back, explain to them how you feel. If you realize the way you've been acting towards them, that's already a big step and I congratulate you! But yeah.. try not to take advantage of them being guillable either, if they are it's cause they trusted you.
I am not a Bible basher, and whether you are a believer or not does not bother me. But if you can get hold of one, please read Acts, Chapter 9.
The Acts is the story of the early Christians written by the same author as the Gospel of Luke. Saul was a particularly nasty official who took great delight in making Christians suffer. A little like you with your parents really...
to much of a good thing can be bad to much to handle say.
if your going out drinking which it is very obviously you our then just dont drink so much that you are in these states when you get home. be honest to them tell them what you are doing they will listen i am sure and guide as they all ways have. the reason they have let you go out is so you can expirence what fun can be like but do not get hooked or life will slip through your fingers
I feel you.. I have lived the same life/lie for so long there's no possible way to fix it. needless to say that it started long After teenage. the only difference is that my parents were not gullible. and they never actually had 100% trust in me. not because i did anything wrong. only because we live in this society of mentally retarded men to whom any woman is a w*ore or very stupid to allow being taken advantage of until proven otherwise.
anyway, I always knew it was just a phase and that I needed to go throw it to be able to arrive where i am now. out of that shitty place and finally have my freedom. i do feel sad that I'm 26 already and that many years have passed. but i couldn't do it any other way. my other alternative was to obey and still be their good, trustworthy daughter who cannot plan her future on her own and probably will have to accept an arranged marriage.
yes, I did everything the wrong way (for them). I wanted to learn new things. i wanted to meet ppl and i wanted to have fun. a long as it wasn't affecting my studies or my work. I would have been stupid if i let it affect me in anyway. and i would definitely be stupid if they busted me cuz then i would lose everything. I did what i thought i deserved to do but as discreetly as possible. i didn't argue or fight or oppose them in anyway. this way I managed to enjoy my life and to pursue my plan to finally leave for post graduate studies abroad.
advice is, do whatever you do anyway you can without pissing them off. drop the silly excuses and prepare really good ones (only if needed) because you shouldn't need an excuse if you do it right.
wish you best of luck,
Would you be able to trust her again? (really need advice)?
theres this guy that was IN LOVE with my girlfriend. and he is always txting and calling her, and it really bugs me to no end. then one day i find a couple pics they took together, nothing sexual and there was no contact in the pics. she was not cheating at all. but in the caption of the pics the guy wrote ';me and my sweetheart'; and then sent it to her. i saw it and we had a fight. and she said she would never talk to him again. so now a month later, i just found out she continued to talk to him during this month, when she promised she wouldnt. shes been lying to me this whole time, to talk to this guy! so i dont think i can trust her anymore. at least not for a while. she wants to stay with me, she doesnt wanna lose me btw. what do u think?Would you be able to trust her again? (really need advice)?
I think she has to gain your trust again. I don't think you should trust her since she lied to you about not talking to that guy again. Why does she need to talk to that guy anyway when she has you? She shouldn't let anyone get in the way of your relationship if she really cares about her relationship with you. and that guy shouldn't be causing trouble either. You need to talk to her and tell her that you can't seem to trust after she lied to you about that guy. she'd have to gain your trust again.Would you be able to trust her again? (really need advice)?
I had a similiar problem with my boyfriend recently.
The way I saw it (which is the way I see ur problem) is that by talking to this guy, she put her relationship with him above her relationship with you.
We were able to talk this out, and I found out that he felt that the girl needed someone to talk to (he really is a sweetheart like that), and it uncovered some underlyin issues in our relationship.
If she can't explain herself, kick her to the curb. I
if she didn't want to lose you then she wouldn't talk to him, simple as that.
I think she's not being faithful.
if u like her lots tell her how u feel. all girls wanna here how much they r luved! at least my cuz does... so ya know :)
I wouldn't worry about it and I wouldn't pick fights over it. As a guy, you probably know, there's some creepy guys that develop obsessions with a girl, usually one they're friends with. As a girl, we feel bad rejecting them completely because they have been our friend, and we see that they're socially retarded. Your girlfriend pities him. However, when you pick fights with her about it, she in turn probably goes to him looking for comfort. It's best for you to act confident and NOT pick fights over it. Sympathize with her over ';how creepy he is'; but how she is ';sooo nice and caring to other people, and that's why'; you love her.
Well I don't think she should have had to stop talking to him in the first place anyway because it's not really fair. But if she promised and broke it then that's quite serious because promises are important. Talk to her calmly about it instead of having an argument and tell her how the others guy's behaviour is making you feel, and maybe then she can talk to him and ask him to back off a bit, letting him know it's you she wants to be with. Maybe you could even be there when they're having this talk, it just depends what suits you best really.
Woaahh I could totally relate you.. something similar happened to me. I think that if you really love your gf.. you should forgive her.. but she has to prove to you in some way that she is not going to talk to him anymore.. maybe she could write to him and tell him that in respect to her current relationship, she cannot talk to him anymore!!! She should show you the message too (I have a REAL hard time trusting unless I see proof) and I mean give it a try.. if she messes up again and lies to you.. then you should consider letting her go.. but for now, see what happens and forgive her!
good luck!!!
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I think that you had Absolutely no reason to tell her not to talk to him in the first place. You were just being a jerk and controlling. You let your insecurities get the best of you. But she let you treat her like that and agreed to stop. then lied about it
Soooooo
Yeah your guys relationship is screwed. sorry.
I think she has to gain your trust again. I don't think you should trust her since she lied to you about not talking to that guy again. Why does she need to talk to that guy anyway when she has you? She shouldn't let anyone get in the way of your relationship if she really cares about her relationship with you. and that guy shouldn't be causing trouble either. You need to talk to her and tell her that you can't seem to trust after she lied to you about that guy. she'd have to gain your trust again.Would you be able to trust her again? (really need advice)?
I had a similiar problem with my boyfriend recently.
The way I saw it (which is the way I see ur problem) is that by talking to this guy, she put her relationship with him above her relationship with you.
We were able to talk this out, and I found out that he felt that the girl needed someone to talk to (he really is a sweetheart like that), and it uncovered some underlyin issues in our relationship.
If she can't explain herself, kick her to the curb. I
if she didn't want to lose you then she wouldn't talk to him, simple as that.
I think she's not being faithful.
if u like her lots tell her how u feel. all girls wanna here how much they r luved! at least my cuz does... so ya know :)
I wouldn't worry about it and I wouldn't pick fights over it. As a guy, you probably know, there's some creepy guys that develop obsessions with a girl, usually one they're friends with. As a girl, we feel bad rejecting them completely because they have been our friend, and we see that they're socially retarded. Your girlfriend pities him. However, when you pick fights with her about it, she in turn probably goes to him looking for comfort. It's best for you to act confident and NOT pick fights over it. Sympathize with her over ';how creepy he is'; but how she is ';sooo nice and caring to other people, and that's why'; you love her.
Well I don't think she should have had to stop talking to him in the first place anyway because it's not really fair. But if she promised and broke it then that's quite serious because promises are important. Talk to her calmly about it instead of having an argument and tell her how the others guy's behaviour is making you feel, and maybe then she can talk to him and ask him to back off a bit, letting him know it's you she wants to be with. Maybe you could even be there when they're having this talk, it just depends what suits you best really.
Woaahh I could totally relate you.. something similar happened to me. I think that if you really love your gf.. you should forgive her.. but she has to prove to you in some way that she is not going to talk to him anymore.. maybe she could write to him and tell him that in respect to her current relationship, she cannot talk to him anymore!!! She should show you the message too (I have a REAL hard time trusting unless I see proof) and I mean give it a try.. if she messes up again and lies to you.. then you should consider letting her go.. but for now, see what happens and forgive her!
good luck!!!
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I think that you had Absolutely no reason to tell her not to talk to him in the first place. You were just being a jerk and controlling. You let your insecurities get the best of you. But she let you treat her like that and agreed to stop. then lied about it
Soooooo
Yeah your guys relationship is screwed. sorry.
How far should we trust zodiac signs for love advice?
I am an Aquarian guy and I fell so deeply for a Scorpio lady. However, I read that Scorpios-Aquarians relationship would never work. I am so scared of not winning the heart of this Scorpio lady or stay long with her in a relationship.
I actually believe in zodiac signs as they are in general quite true. I applied what was said about the signs and observed people around me. It seems pretty accurate.
Now I am defying what I believe in and trying to pursue her. My feelings for her are just too strong. I never felt like an Aquarian when I am with her. I am torn apart, confused and scared. Any advice?How far should we trust zodiac signs for love advice?
Do a chart comparison at www.astro.com
The free horoscope section will allow you to draw up a partnership chart, or try astroclick love.
Remember that more than your sun sign comes into play here.
There will be adjustments in any relationship, and the maturity of the two people involved will influence these interactions.
Can it work? Yes, if you both have an understanding of each other and you want to, you can make it work.
The comparison chart should serve as a guide to overcome any difficulties, not to be a yes/no answer.
Follow your heart.How far should we trust zodiac signs for love advice?
zodiac signs are bullshit. its all in your head and their little ';decisions'; or predictions just infiltrate your head and make you execute it.
Just go for it. Stop worrying about whether your zodiac signs are compatible and go with your heart.
Pssh. Those things are so general that they can be taken any way. I read them for fun but don't believe them.
I think that if you love this girl, go out with her and forget about the stupid zodiac. My horoscope said that I would start a passionate relationship with a Cancer one day, and we would end up happy, but you know what?
IT DIDN'T HAPPEN.
Those things aren't real. Who cares if she's a Scorpio and you're and Aquarian. If you truly love her, it won't matter.
Go with how you feel and see how the relationship develops. Ignore the star sign recommendations for now.
Sounds like you two WOULD be compaible actually, from my experience I am never too interested in someone unless yeah, we are pretty compatible!
I would recommend to you a site that goes
http://astrotouch.com
because in this site you can see if you truly Are compatible..and yes, if the relationship is likely to work. Don't be scared^^ you most likely are and will be very compatible, and this site will tell you you are, too, most likely, because otherwise why would you have been attracted if there was not something for you to learn from her and she from you, or at least for you to grow from the experience?
Take care. And try the site, don't be scared^^
If you would like to see more about compatibility, check my very first question. I also know of a pretty decent site that goes http://compatiblerelatinoships.com which will give you a ';soulmate rating'; pretty accurate, however in my opinion the information astrouch gives you is slightly better and gives you a much better picture of the relationship. What the site does is basically analyze the generla amount of good and bad indictaors for a successful relationship (loyalty, attraction, appreciation) etc and sums it all up in a little paragraph for you and tells you how you relate. Also provides a compat. percentage as a quantitative and visual indicator (useful cuz u can compare it to the percentage of the other birthdates you put in)
If you register it will give you some info about the individuals in the relationship, too. It starts out with the sun sign and goes into a little summary about the basic personality of the person based on their sun and moon sign together. It also gives you a summary on the personality of the person based on the makeup of each element in their chart...ex a lot of water, too little air, and compares it with yours.
Talks about how the elements in charts attribute to the relationship between one another and how the two of you are similar or different in regards to the makeup of your elements in ur separate birtch charts. At the end it provides a general statement about how elements of your sun signs usually relate.
Personally, i think that while the horoscops are alot of fun, they are so vague theat they could apply to any thing. You shouldn't let it control your life of make inportant disisions for you, such as a choice in your love life.
I also kind of believe in astrology BUT!
Dont make astrology out-riddles you, go seek ur opportunity as much as possible...just put zodiac inside a lil black box and forget it, otherwise it's not religion...
U know I have good word 4 you:
Zodiac is only a skeleton of faith...but your will to change your destiny is bigger than you are!!!
Go-on Tiger!
You can't decide on that with just knowing your sun signs. I believe too but more so in having charts done and then doing a comparison of the two. I did once and was totally amazed at the results. too cool!eyeshadow
I actually believe in zodiac signs as they are in general quite true. I applied what was said about the signs and observed people around me. It seems pretty accurate.
Now I am defying what I believe in and trying to pursue her. My feelings for her are just too strong. I never felt like an Aquarian when I am with her. I am torn apart, confused and scared. Any advice?How far should we trust zodiac signs for love advice?
Do a chart comparison at www.astro.com
The free horoscope section will allow you to draw up a partnership chart, or try astroclick love.
Remember that more than your sun sign comes into play here.
There will be adjustments in any relationship, and the maturity of the two people involved will influence these interactions.
Can it work? Yes, if you both have an understanding of each other and you want to, you can make it work.
The comparison chart should serve as a guide to overcome any difficulties, not to be a yes/no answer.
Follow your heart.How far should we trust zodiac signs for love advice?
zodiac signs are bullshit. its all in your head and their little ';decisions'; or predictions just infiltrate your head and make you execute it.
Just go for it. Stop worrying about whether your zodiac signs are compatible and go with your heart.
Pssh. Those things are so general that they can be taken any way. I read them for fun but don't believe them.
I think that if you love this girl, go out with her and forget about the stupid zodiac. My horoscope said that I would start a passionate relationship with a Cancer one day, and we would end up happy, but you know what?
IT DIDN'T HAPPEN.
Those things aren't real. Who cares if she's a Scorpio and you're and Aquarian. If you truly love her, it won't matter.
Go with how you feel and see how the relationship develops. Ignore the star sign recommendations for now.
Sounds like you two WOULD be compaible actually, from my experience I am never too interested in someone unless yeah, we are pretty compatible!
I would recommend to you a site that goes
http://astrotouch.com
because in this site you can see if you truly Are compatible..and yes, if the relationship is likely to work. Don't be scared^^ you most likely are and will be very compatible, and this site will tell you you are, too, most likely, because otherwise why would you have been attracted if there was not something for you to learn from her and she from you, or at least for you to grow from the experience?
Take care. And try the site, don't be scared^^
If you would like to see more about compatibility, check my very first question. I also know of a pretty decent site that goes http://compatiblerelatinoships.com which will give you a ';soulmate rating'; pretty accurate, however in my opinion the information astrouch gives you is slightly better and gives you a much better picture of the relationship. What the site does is basically analyze the generla amount of good and bad indictaors for a successful relationship (loyalty, attraction, appreciation) etc and sums it all up in a little paragraph for you and tells you how you relate. Also provides a compat. percentage as a quantitative and visual indicator (useful cuz u can compare it to the percentage of the other birthdates you put in)
If you register it will give you some info about the individuals in the relationship, too. It starts out with the sun sign and goes into a little summary about the basic personality of the person based on their sun and moon sign together. It also gives you a summary on the personality of the person based on the makeup of each element in their chart...ex a lot of water, too little air, and compares it with yours.
Talks about how the elements in charts attribute to the relationship between one another and how the two of you are similar or different in regards to the makeup of your elements in ur separate birtch charts. At the end it provides a general statement about how elements of your sun signs usually relate.
Personally, i think that while the horoscops are alot of fun, they are so vague theat they could apply to any thing. You shouldn't let it control your life of make inportant disisions for you, such as a choice in your love life.
I also kind of believe in astrology BUT!
Dont make astrology out-riddles you, go seek ur opportunity as much as possible...just put zodiac inside a lil black box and forget it, otherwise it's not religion...
U know I have good word 4 you:
Zodiac is only a skeleton of faith...but your will to change your destiny is bigger than you are!!!
Go-on Tiger!
You can't decide on that with just knowing your sun signs. I believe too but more so in having charts done and then doing a comparison of the two. I did once and was totally amazed at the results. too cool!
Should I trust this well-known hair restoration doctor's advice?
Recently, I've been curious about hair loss, for a couple of years I've had a very tiny recession but still have a full head of hair throughout. I went to see this hair restoration doctor in NYC, well-known in the field and provided free consultation but I felt rushed through it, he put some device called the densitometer on me, a device that none of the dermatologists or other hair specialists knew about and said that I exhibited very early signs of genetic hair loss.I told him my father started losing hair and thinning at 46 (56 now) so he immediately prescribed Propecia, he rushed me through the whole consultation and I didnt really get my questions answered well (a lot of I dunno). The whole experience made me unsure whether if I should trust him and spend the $69/mo on Propecia for life if right now I have a full head of hair.I saw a derm and a trichologist and he thought it's not serious at the moment but if i start to exhibit signs then take it or take it to protect it.Should I trust this well-known hair restoration doctor's advice?
It doesn't matter when your father started to bald. You get the hair loss gene from your mother side (her brother's), not your own father. Once you know that, it sort of puts the rest of it into perspective doesn't it?Should I trust this well-known hair restoration doctor's advice?
Hi There,
It's good of you to hesitate. In short, I suggest consulting another hair loss expert. It doesn't sound like you need a hair restoration procedure. But if you are losing your hair and want to prevent noticible baldness, then Propecia is your best bet.
I had a hair restoration procedure done back in July and am very happy with the results. Mine was a Bosley hair transplantation. The cost of a hair transplantation varies from surgeon -to-surgeon and the severity of the patients hair loss. That said, you can expect to spend $5,000 - $15,000. Since receiving the procedure I have kept a blog called BattleAgainstBald.com. The blog details the results of my Bosley hair transplantation and I also provide a wealth of information on hair loss and the other methods used to correct it.
Since my results have sort of topped off I have invited my friend Torrance to blog about his procedure. He had is done about 90 days ago is already beginning to see results.
I encourage you to check out BattleAgainstBald.com, as I'm sure the information there can answer a lot, if not all of your questions.
Best of luck to you in your battle against bald...
Seth
Try Hair loss remedies at http://www.hairthinning.org/
no don't trust him
It doesn't matter when your father started to bald. You get the hair loss gene from your mother side (her brother's), not your own father. Once you know that, it sort of puts the rest of it into perspective doesn't it?Should I trust this well-known hair restoration doctor's advice?
Hi There,
It's good of you to hesitate. In short, I suggest consulting another hair loss expert. It doesn't sound like you need a hair restoration procedure. But if you are losing your hair and want to prevent noticible baldness, then Propecia is your best bet.
I had a hair restoration procedure done back in July and am very happy with the results. Mine was a Bosley hair transplantation. The cost of a hair transplantation varies from surgeon -to-surgeon and the severity of the patients hair loss. That said, you can expect to spend $5,000 - $15,000. Since receiving the procedure I have kept a blog called BattleAgainstBald.com. The blog details the results of my Bosley hair transplantation and I also provide a wealth of information on hair loss and the other methods used to correct it.
Since my results have sort of topped off I have invited my friend Torrance to blog about his procedure. He had is done about 90 days ago is already beginning to see results.
I encourage you to check out BattleAgainstBald.com, as I'm sure the information there can answer a lot, if not all of your questions.
Best of luck to you in your battle against bald...
Seth
Try Hair loss remedies at http://www.hairthinning.org/
no don't trust him
Who can I trust for the BEST malware advice?
I can't get rid of this ';security integrity compromised'; message that keeps popping up and freezing my computer! (Including trojandownloader message). I've run Spybot S%26amp;D (which takes forever to run), removed Smitfraud, run RogueRemover, cannot run AVG (anti-virus or anti-spy) because that bug keeps popping up then I get a message saying that installation failed because of insufficient system resources. I don't know the difference between system restore and running in safe mode; how/why should I do this if I can't even d/l the anti-malware programs? I can't even run disk cleanup! Please, someone, help!Who can I trust for the BEST malware advice?
I recommend downloading Spyware Doctor Starter Edition (part of the google pack) to remove your spyware.
Make sure you are running an antivirus program.
You can also download Threatfire from PCTools, which strengthens malware protection
Free AntiVrius
- Grisoft Avg (2nd Best)(most popular)
- Avast
- Avira AntiVir (Best)
- PCTools Anti-Virus
Free AntiSpyware
- Spyware Doctor Starter Edition (The Best)
- SuperAntispyware (2nd Best)
- Adaware 2007 (most popular)
- Microsoft Defender
- AVG AntiSpyware
- Spyware Terminator 2
- Spy Hunter 3
- Spybot Search and Destroy
More Antivirus and Antispyware Information and links to the software vendors are found here http://pcsafety.info
I recommend downloading Spyware Doctor Starter Edition (part of the google pack) to remove your spyware.
Make sure you are running an antivirus program.
You can also download Threatfire from PCTools, which strengthens malware protection
Free AntiVrius
- Grisoft Avg (2nd Best)(most popular)
- Avast
- Avira AntiVir (Best)
- PCTools Anti-Virus
Free AntiSpyware
- Spyware Doctor Starter Edition (The Best)
- SuperAntispyware (2nd Best)
- Adaware 2007 (most popular)
- Microsoft Defender
- AVG AntiSpyware
- Spyware Terminator 2
- Spy Hunter 3
- Spybot Search and Destroy
More Antivirus and Antispyware Information and links to the software vendors are found here http://pcsafety.info
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