Do you have trust issues?i need advice?

i know i do maybe because my last relationship didnt go so well and i trusted him now its hard to trust my new boyfriend even though i think he really likes me.


what can i do to have a little more trust in him?


i feel like if i believe what he tells me im just going to end up getting hurt %26amp; i dont know how i can deal with that bc i have never felt like this for anyone else....Do you have trust issues?i need advice?
List all of the reasons you currently don't trust the person.


Rate the items on the list on a 1-3 scale of how severe they were (see tips for examples of severity). This is your most important consideration. Even one item in the major category can destroy a friendship.


Review the length of your list. If it only has one or two minor-medium offenses, then perhaps working on regaining your trust is a good idea. On the other hand, if the list is long then perhaps you need to reconsider trusting the person, at least for the time being.


Determine how long ago the last offense occurred. Events that happened a long time ago should more than likely be forgiven. For example if your boyfriend or girlfriend was stolen 3-5 years ago, perhaps it's time to begin the healing process and forgive them.











[edit] Regaining Trust





Create a list of why you want the friendship to go back the way it was. It doesn't have to be a large list, nor does it have to be on paper (however though it is good at times to have it on paper. This way in case you confuse some facts, you can look at the list and see what was wrong or not). A couple of ideas as to why you want to keep the relationship is good enough.


Realize that the friendship will never be exactly the same. It may become stronger because of your ability to move forward, stay the same or it may become worse.


Speak with the person who has offended you. Be honest about what you feel and what you need from the other person to move forward. It might be a good idea at this stage to discuss the lists that you have drawn up in the previous sections. For example, sometimes a simple apology is all that is needed; however, a return of an item or an agreement as to when money will be paid back may also be necessary. Other times you may need the person to prove to you that you can trust them again. Allow them to and give back trust when you feel they've deserved it.


Allow yourself the time to heal. You may feel hurt for a while even after you have forgiven the other person. This is a normal part of the process and in time you will be able to move forward.











[edit] TipsExamples of minor offenses (1):


Repeated something you said, to another person, not knowing it was confidential information


Ignored you when you called his or her name


Lied once or twice


Said your boyfriend or girlfriend was ';hot';


Examples of medium offenses (2):


Repeated something you said, to another person, after you told them ';DO NOT REPEAT THIS';


Lied often


Stole a small amount of money but returned it before you even noticed it was missing


Examples of major offenses (3):


Hurts others or themselves on purpose


Steals anything from you and then denies it (the amount of the something doesn't matter, it's the denial and the idea of stealing which is in issue).


Steals anything and refuses to give it back


Cheats on his or her spouse with your spouseDo you have trust issues?i need advice?
Well dont just start trusting him full out. Let it build up. But just keep telling yourself that he isnt your ex. He deserves a chance from you he shouldnt be punished for what an ex does. But just be careful and see what happens.
just take things slow


get to know each other first


but overtime you will learn to trust again


and thats normal after a bad relationship


but remember not to be too naive and take it slow
There is risk in every relationship.





Trust is earned over time.





It is just a wait and see kind of deal.
When the decision of the head and heart conflict, listen to your heart. No point going into a relationship without a trust.
just be chill. dont always ask him questions about where hes been all day or w/e, he'll grow closer to you if u show signs that u already trust him
TRUST NO ONE!!!1
only you would know