Need some advice on a trust violation?

I accidently opened up my bf's employment offer letter he saved on his computer when I was using his computer. Now he wants to end everything because it was a HUGE trust violation for him. Is he being unreasonable? It was a accident and a piece of paper. What do you think?Need some advice on a trust violation?
A few things come to mind on this:


First, has this issue come up before? Was this the first time he's felt like you were ';snooping?'; If so, then his reaction may be slightly justified.


Second, if this is the first time this type of thing has happened, it sounds like he's being a little unreasonable. But that may be because there's more to the story that he's not telling you. Otherwise, why would he care if you took a peek at the letter? Shouldnt that be something you should know anyway?


Third, if the first two thoughts dont apply, then maybe he's sensitive to the situation because of a bad past relationship experience. Maybe an ex-girlfriend was a super-snoop and that just turned him off and that's why he overreacted to this.


BUT, without having the benefit to the answers to those questions, my gut reaction is that he's got something to hide. There's no other reason to overreact to the point of ending the relationship over something so insignificant.Need some advice on a trust violation?
I think its a good thing you opened the letter when you did. I mean be for ya'll got married. How mad did he get...he put his hands on you then you know the relationship isn't bout s*** i mean worth it. Give him some time and space until this thing blows over. Shouldn't exceed a week. If it doesn't you know somethings wrong.
I believe he's over reacting. However, in his mind, it may lead to you snooping and finding things he finds very personal (i.e. a pic of an old girlfriend, a journal entry, etc.) and there in lies the trust violation. You probably already told him it was an accident. Ask him what you can do to get his trust back and try to be super sweet to him and let him win arguments for the next little while. Best of luck!
he needs to chill out ... it was an accident...
I kept thinking about this, %26amp; I can't help but think that there is more to this story. People rarely do something like this without something happening in the past. Has he been acting funny recently? (Like he was seeing someone else type funny.) Maybe he was looking for a reason to dump you %26amp; this was just his opportunity. Was the letter opening an accident or an ';accident';? Be honest with yourself in this case. If you have a history for extreme snooping then his anger wasn't totally unjustified.





However, if this is one of the times where someone really did do something by accident, then you're better off without him. I just can't shake the feeling that there's more to this that you aren't telling us.