I'm in an open marriage but my husband violated my trust, any advice?

The main thing is open communication, but still my husband isn't telling me everything. I even found him chatting with another, telling them ';I'll have use for you when my wife's outta town';. He told me it didn't mean anything and that's why he didn't tell me about it. Should I believe him?I'm in an open marriage but my husband violated my trust, any advice?
Should you believe him? NO. Do I have any advise for you? Not really. You need to make your own call on this one. Depends on how 'open' your relationship is.I'm in an open marriage but my husband violated my trust, any advice?
Ok now I am an older woman and I know I would never ever let my husband sleep with another woman! In fact, I would hurt him (badly) if I ever found out he messed around. My first husband thought he was in an open relationship, but he was WRONG!





Doesn't ';open marriage'; mean things like ';swinging'; and ';having sex with other people';? (Being able to have all the benefits of marriage and all the morals of an alley cat!)???





Well if you have THAT kind of open marriage how do you expect him to line up other woman to sleep with UNLESS he can talk to them first?! I mean married men must have a more difficult time finding a woman stupid enough to screw them (just so they can leave them to go home to their wives afterwards?)? I would think they have a MUCH more difficult time than a woman has finding people to sleep with (cause some men would do it with ANY THANG!) Sure if your husband's going to get all the benefits of an open marriage he's going to HAVE to talk to, be with, spend FAMILY money on, and maybe one day fall in love with a new woman, so I don't think you can start setting guidelines on his cheating (or your cheating now).





If either of you has ever had sex with anyone besides your spouse since you have been married then ';trust'; went out the window about the time THAT happened. If you are jealous it must mean you are NOT getting enough action YOURSELF, get BUSY WOMAN! Get out there and find some more hump buddies. Maybe both of you can catch AIDS or Hep. C or or even Herpes! You could manage to get yourself pregnant, that will sure teach him!





If you have an open marriage, then you do not have ANY reason to be jealous or suspicious you have already consented to allowing other people in your marital bed, why would you object to him just talking to someone? That seems odd! Don't you talk to the people you whore around with? Who are you doing it with? Mimes?
Maybe you shouldn't be in an open relasionship as you don't sound comfortable with it.





Sound to complicated for me.





%26amp; No don't trust him.
no you should not belive him, whats he goin to use her for when your out of town the gardening?, you are right not to trust this man
an open marriage is a joke, how can you be married and faithful to each other yet sharing yourself with other people?? Of course he isn't going to tell you everything, he feels he doesn't have to.
How can you violate trust in an open marriage?





That's like getting a speeding ticket at the Indy 500.
How exactly can you violate trust in an open marriage? Open marriage, give the okay to do...whom ever and whatever you want to. At least it does to a man, shouldn't of ever opened that door, once that one is open, there's no closing it. Next marriage....keep it shut.
no my fiance just screwed me over too and he treats me like crap. Even though the pain is excruciating you have to move on with your life. It's so hard but if you can't trust someone then you can't be with them. You will end up constantly wondering and snooping and such. It's not worth it to live the rest of your life miserable even if you think you love this person, love yourself more. I hate men
Mam chating is not an offence. don't be to emotional
comon just a little **** and u get very mad, maybe he needs a chage, if u eat pasta evry day its boring, a little **** , will set him right as long he is with you
It is my understanding open marriages condone their spouses having sex with other people. Their can still be deceit, as your husband has shown you here. Whether you have an open marriage or not, when your spouse hides something like this from you, something is going on you wouldn't approve of. Maybe emotions are a factor with him and this other person. To answer your question, no you shouldn't believe him. He has no reason to hide sex from you b/c you have an open marriage. Best of luck to you!
An open marriage is not a good thing... Why is it like this... Do you cheat on him too??? This marriage will not last because it is an open marriage... I hope you now that... If it is open then he feels free to do what he is doing....
This really doesn't sound like an open relationship at all! If it were open, that wouldn't be bothering you. What's really going on here? I have a feeling you have only told part of the story........
He is not being fair or honest to you.Maybe you should discuss with him again what this open marriage means.The agreement should serve you both not only himself.And he should try to see it from your point of view.Looks like he thinks its just a license to disregard your feelings and have his own way.But if the diplomatic approach doesn麓t work then give him a taste of his own medicine.You have excuse/reasons enough.See how he likes it.As the saying goes action speaks louder than words.
Only answer here is don't have an open marriage. It will cause probs in the long run.