No, no, no. Arranged marriages aren't fair to you as a person. All you are going to be is a baby making machine and have no say in the household. I'm afraid you could be looking at a lifetime of misery. Get out of this if it's possible for you to do so. We live in the 21st Century now and YOU do have a choice. Choose wisely, then run as fast as your legs can carry you.I dont trust my fiancee. this going to be an arranged marriage .i need advice?
I am sorry for your predicament. Your priorities at the moment don't seem to match those of your fiance. If completion of a course of study would further your prospects in your and your fiance's lives, you could explain the advantages of your study to him.
If you are also against certain restrictions on clothing and wish to play a role of an equal partner rather than as a dependent subservient wife, then it would be better to have this discussed threadbare with your parents and fiance. A lot depends on your family values, parental support and the society in which you live as regards the role of women.
In the absence of details, it would seem that the present arrangement is not going to lead to a happy marriage for both you and your fiance.
I hope you get the support of your parents in your choice of the type of life you want to lead. Good luck.
well its related to religious issue. and nothing is upward than God's order. burqa (parda) is ordered by God not by your fiancee your husband your brother your father or any body else. You see your God and try to obedient to Him. The other aspect is that your fiancee wants to lead his life like a free bird but wants to imply restriction upon you. this is bad. this is not justified. he will be answerable and he should be taught by some elder the one who knows and who faith. you will not do parda, you will not perform salat, you will not do good deeds on direction of somebody but only for God and for your goodselve in here and in life hereafter. finally, I must quote that if you are not comfortable with your fiancee just try to finish this relation before you got married and you suffer your husband suffer and your children suffer.....may God bless you amin
Break the cycle of arranged marriages. Do you want to waste your days? Is that what you feel you are here for? The answer is no right? Remember in the end you will regret that you didn't step up and do what you felt you wanted. It will be no one Else's doings but your own. Life is truly short. Let him go. Arranged marriage would never work(unless you are a spineless slave who would never question the fact that you and your man have no true connection in life %26amp; live silently with no intamacy or friendship) it would be miserable. Do the right thing for your life.
Jiya- you must not allow yourself to go through with this! You are going to be miserable and you see how he is now it will only get worse.....then kids and on top of all that then you are not going to be treated as an equal you will be treated as his SLAVE as you said. This is enevitably a lifetime of Depression and UNHAPPINESS! You need to get on your own and just do it live life to its fullest, just do not get married untill it is the man you LOVE and want to marry!! And TRUST is key is a marriage! SO IS RESPECT! Becareful and I wish you the best!!!!
So I take it to be a Muslim marriage ,and you do not wish to wear the burqa and you want to be free, and have a friend and study, Well this is , some thing thing to do with your religion, and if you want to get married to an other guy that is just up to you whom you marry, but what you will be doing going against your tradition
Get out of that situation now. Even if it means abandoning your family, since they obviously don't care about your happiness. If he can't respect you as an equal, he has no business marrying you regardless of what your parents think. You will be so much happier if you live your life how you want, not how other people want it.
Arrange Marriages Always End Up bad cause the husbands always expect the woman to cook and clean and not have freinds my suggestion dont get married to the guy cause 80% of time time in the relationship he ends up cheating on you or beating you. so becarefull and think long and hard about this.
good luck to you and i hope you make a good choice
If you do not have trust, you do not have anything (relationship wise). Do not go through with this. You're very understandably apprehensive about this marriage--explain to your parents that this is not right for you.
THIS is why I do not like arranged MARRIAGES!! I would NOT get married I realize it is your culture but you should have the choice it is YOUR wedding to not just his..sorry but he sounds very controlling and NO man needs to do that
im so sorry, i have no answer for you, but i do give you my deepest sympathy. i don't understand your culture i know, if you could explain a little more then maybe i could be a little more of a shoulder to lean on.
Seems you answered your own question. Either except the arranged destiny before you our be outcast on your own into the unknown. Faith in God helps here.
you know thats a major problem to start with..... you wanna make sure before you get married that you eliminate all these problems if you don't wanna ruin the rest of your life as well as your freedom
If you don't have to do it don't. A lifetime of misery awaits.
Don't marry him.
why dont u break up with him, no one can oblige you to get maried to someone u dislike.
Dont marry him
dont marry him
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