Ok! I fully understand what you mean and the situation cause it happened to me too. But he is absolutely right in what he is telling you. trust is the only cement with love in a couple, if you remove one of the ingredients, everything is going to collapse, believe me. You have to trust him whatever it's going to cost you otherwise, you would bear the blame in case you break up. He might have been flirting before, when he maybe was not yet sure you would be the right one for him, for ever. But he chosen to settle with you and not with another. If he would betray you that's because you would have given him reason to do so. So question also yourself on your behavior towards him, The best remedy is in the bed or where ever in your place, and be sure to give him what he wants. Then he will not even think of another one.I have major trust issues wit my man ? plz help..advice!?
You do really need to learn to trust him again. You have forgiven him for his mistake and you need to start afresh.
It'll be hard trying to ignore those feelings of jealousy. If you think of how good he treats you instead and how much you love each other hopefully you will be able to forget it. If you cant your only going to make yourself unhappy and drive him away and im sure you don't want to do that
HIYA
You can change yourself but you may not be able to change him
Take a look at the book Self Analysis my LRon Hubard xx good luck
you have every right to feel the way you do but you must learn how to control it cause if don't you could lose him jealousy is a normal feelingfor everyone we just all need to learn how to control it before it controls us
curb him !
Look, i was in the same situation. All you have to do is trust a little and keep your eyes open alot. And stop assuming he's cheating becuase then that gives him a reason to be a little more trickier if he is (pray that he's not), but i mean...open your eyes and make sure you're doing the right thing.And he may threaten to leave, but leave all of that behind and flip the script like the innocent one and become a little more on the nice/cool with anything side then he'll think you're messing around and change up because he can't blame you for anything he knows nothing about!
speaking from experience of being with a guy that cheated on me - I can tell you that your fears of him cheating will never stop. He broke the trust you two had between each other and that is never coming back. It sounds so easy to say just trust me - but in reality its not easily done. You'll drive yourself crazy thinking about who hes with - what hes doing - who hes talking to - my advice is to get out of this relationship. You dont sound happy in it - you may love him - but you have to put your sanity first here
xx
You should leave him. Here's the thing: when a partner cheats, that trust is really hard to bring back. Sometimes it's impossible. So you say ';he's changed'; but has he really? If he has, you wouldn't be feeling like he's cheating. You'd think he was genuine and good and trustworthy, which you don't.
If he's cheating, he doesn't love you, and you wouldn't want to stay with someone who didn't love you back. So believe that he's doing the right thing and not cheating. If you get wind that he is, get out and stay out. But for now, don't question it. Just believe that he's being honest. And it's your RIGHT to ask questions, now that he's ruined your relationship permanently. If he doesn't like it, let him leave; he deserves to be single.
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