Major Trust Issues Will You Give Me Some Advice?

Ok so i've had two dads so far and they both turned out to either have drug or drinking problems and its really screwed up my life. I cant trust anyone anymore and some people take it the wrong way they think im just being a snob but im not. When i become really good friends with someone after awhile i start pulling away because im afraid to open up and let them into my world even though thr really nice people. I guess my biggest fear is that something kinda the same to what my dads did will happen to me again. Can you please give me some advice?Major Trust Issues Will You Give Me Some Advice?
Hey Ducky! =)


okay well i know what you have gone through has been really hard on you and i can understand, if that happend to me, i would have major trust issues also, but you'll probably be dealing with this for a while because getting over stuff like that dosnt just happen overnight, but just start doing little things that push you out of your comfort zone (trust wise) just little things and you will see that you will start trusting people, your friends, and family with little stuff and then you can go from there.


well hope i have helped=)


xoxoMajor Trust Issues Will You Give Me Some Advice?
to be honest, you will probably be battling with this for the majority of your life. early experiences have a way shaping us and influencing us way over into adulthood.





however, because you realize the problem, you can begin using self-talk to regulate your responses to relationships. when you notice your tendency to pull away from someone, take small steps to do the opposite. if you know you've gone missing for a while or have been dodging phone calls, send a text or leave a voice mail asking for a lunch date or inviting the other person to a movie.





and also, judge each person by THEIR actions, not anyone else's. have they done something to hurt you? have they betrayed or abandoned you? if not, fight to keep those ties healthy and alive.





and sometimes, let's face it, you will be hurt--just like you will hurt others. it's all a part of life. but when a relatonship is worth it, the healthy person works to forgive and to get past the rough stuff.
ur problem is u think if u became close to anyone they will make comments on ur family and ur fathers.... so only u keeping distance from the peoples whom u like also......


don be like tat if u think them as ur closed ones speak wit them all ur sad and happy things then they will undersatnd u much and they will not comment ....... they only will help u in bad situation like this how i giving u advice.......