Can I still trust him?? ADVICE PLEASE!!?

My boyfriend was at a bachelor party 2 weekends ago. They went paint balling, then to Dave and Busters, and he met up with me after 鈥?around midnight. He told me that he dropped off his friends at the hotel before coming to see me. Well, last weekend I found out from one of his friends that he had actually dropped them off at a strip club. I know he did not go in, but he did lie to me about it. I felt really hurt when I found out, we got into an argument, and then we made up. The problem is, I can鈥檛 stop thinking about the fact that he lied to me. I was in class today and I couldn鈥檛 even focus on the lecture, I barely even took any notes 鈥?and the class is 3 hours long! I just have this horrible, unsetting feeling in my stomach and I don鈥檛 know what to do.





We have been together for a year and a half and this is so disappointing to me because until the incident, I thought we had a perfect relationship. Now I am so confused. I feel like it is too insignificant to break-up with him over, but at the same time, I don鈥檛 know if I trust him anymore. I mean, what are the chances that the only lie he ever told me was the one I caught him telling?





What should I do? And how would you feel in this situation??Can I still trust him?? ADVICE PLEASE!!?
this doesn't seem like a big enough deal to cause you this much of a headache. he was probably lying to cover for his friends. He didn't go in, he came to see you....so what are you so worried about? I would be worried if he went into the strip club and THEN lied. I think you are okay to trust him.Can I still trust him?? ADVICE PLEASE!!?
It's nto a big dela, why was he going to tell that he dropped his freinds a strip club. You would probably got in to a big argument that moment, he didn;t wnated to ruin the night, bsides it was late and he was probably tired. It is something so stupid and harmless, let it go don't mess your relationship with something so dimb. It could have been worst.
Honey that's nothing to be all upset about, be upset when he goes into the strip club and gets a lap dance or something. I wouldn't like being lied to, but what he lied about maybe he didn't want you to know the guys business. Look at it like that. Come on now, you're taking this way out of proportion. I'm sure you can still trust him.
I feel that if he lied to you about something that small then just leave him. I mean if he didn't go into the strip club what was the point in lying about it?? What if he gets the hang of lying and they turn into major ones?? It may seem like a drastic change but in the future it will only help you better.


-Good Luck
He didn't even go in. There is no reason to make a huge deal out of it. He knew how you would react. So like when you tell your friend that her haircut is amazing when it is hideous, your guy was just sparing your feelings because he obviously cares about you!!! Be happy with that1
This was a little white lie because he didn't want to fight with you about being in the strip club parking lot. Seems like you have a decent relationship, pick and choose your battles.
u should trust him


he knew u were gonna get mad about the strip club part so he had 2 lie for ur own safety thats what i think
i would still trust him. atleast he didnt go in the strip club. right? some guys would go in the club anyways.
i would be really mad to, idk maybe u shouold break up with him.
you worry too much, just relax
I don't really see a problem here. You are making this into more than it has to be. His friend didn't say he went in or that the got it on with a stripper, he just dropped them off. He probably felt you would have had a problem with him even being near a strip club, have you, in the past talked bad about strip clubs or people who go to them? If this is all you have to complain or worry about in your relationship, then you do have a perfect relationship. You have to ask yourself is this the real and only reason you are so upset and can't let it go. I kind of get the feeling that something else is bothering you and maybe you don't even realize it. Has anything else about him caused you wonder or has his behavior changed?Has he changed toward you? If i were in this situation i would just be a bit peeved that he didn't feel he could tell me what really happened, but i wouldn't be considering breaking up with him.
He told a white lie.....not a lie, I know that some people would say that they are one in the same but they are not. a lie, directly effects you, a white lie has no effect on you whatsoever. He told you that to protect his friends privacy, maybe they did not want you or anyone to know, that is fair, you aren't entitled to know his friends personal business. He came home after dropping them off, that has to do with your relationship and is a good reflection that he respects you enough to not enagage in those types of activities even though his friends are. You need to take a step back and understand the boundaries of relationships. Your boyfriend is not entitled to know you closest girl friends personal business and if you have felt it appropriate to share it with him thus far you should seriously reconsider that choice.
that is tough..... did you ask him why he lied about that, when he wasnt even involved in the strip club. Maybe he didnt want to tell you, because he was afraid it would get some of the other guys in trouble. If I were you, as long as he didnt go himself and lie about it, I wouldnt be too worried.





But I would start being a littl emore observant with him, and maybe a little nosy. it never hurts to look for things. Because if you never look for reasons not to trust them, then there will never be any.
we become like our friends, and lying to cover up the kinds of friends that will lead to anything but marriage isnt a good sign.





it's up to you do you want to be just another view to those kinds of friends even if he decides to truely change and not lie to you to cover up things?





some help from above too,





%26amp; THAT HELP=Jesus offers answers.





a good chapter Philippians 4: 6%26amp;7 prayer and peace


13 power to do all good thing through Jesus


also in the chapter is rejoice evermore and contentment





written from Paul in prison for life for preaching the gospel, yet greatest book on joy love (chapter 1) and peace





Philippians 1:6 'Being confident in this very thing, that he which began a good work in you will continue it till the day of Jesus Christ.';








thanks good question;


My Jewish people, they arent about knowing God personally. Our religious service apart from Messianic Jewish are just regular Jewish chanting, trying to invoke a blessing from a God that has been missing for 2,700 years, since the last recongnized prophet Malachi, who ended saying come Messiah.





David in Messiah Jesus amazing grace, repented of sins and asked Jesus in to be my good shepherd Psalm 23 %26amp; John 10, Savior John 3 %26amp; 10,





I prayed ';Help me Jesus, thanks for dying for my sins I am sorry for even one lie and all the other sins, come into my heart and be my friend, amen.';





it worked wonderful, now the bible is God's love letter to my heart.





and Jesus is my


best friend


Revelation 3:19%26amp;20 As Jesus says ';I love you, repent quickly of sins. Behold I am at your heart's door knocking to come in, if you let me in, I will enter to be your leader and friend.';





have a good future today with the big picture in play

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