You are just getting yourself worked up. Pregnancy can have that effect. Hormones just don't know how to control themselves, believe me I've been there. Just take a deep breath and focus on the positive. You are going to be bringing a new one into the world and your husband will be back before you know it. He's got to much to focus on over there, and i'm sure he will be thinking of you everyday. I was in iraq and all I thought about was getting home to my husband. Everything is going to be fine. Before you know it you will be holding a little one in y our arms and your husband will be back. If you need someone to talk to, I'm a good listener. Carriedoehne@yahoo.com
Goodluck and congrats on the baby. Marrige and trust advice?
Sweety, everything is going to be okay. He is going to be there fighting a war. I'm sure he isn't worried about ruining what he has with you while he is gone. I know that it is going to take awhile for you to understand. Just take it day by day. Good Luck!!
youre pregnant:sensitive and hormonal ...your husband is leaving ...to go to iraq! do you know there arent any women there for him to cheat with? get a grip woman. pray he comes home whole. He's leaving his pregnant wife to go to a war torn country....your worries are backward. give him love and affection and support and a loving home to come back to. be strong woman!! peace
your husband will have YOU on his mind and will be counting the days until he sees you again. pray about it..worry is not good for you or the relationship
maybe your self esteem is suffering? you can find self help articles on the internet, hon.
take care ok?
Trust me sweetie- this is normal. I'm going through it too... my husband is leaving Tuesday for two months in Oklahoma before heading to Iraq. I'm having the same doubts and fears, but you just have to have faith that everything will work out. Also know that the communication has gotten much better. Jon was there for four months in 2003 and he could only talk on the phone twice and use snail mail. This time, he's got a laptop and has been assured that he will be able to talk with us at least once a week by phone or internet- if not more often. So, you will be able to talk to him. It will ease your mind once you're there to be able to talk to him and ease your stress some.
I think your fear of where he is going is only kicking in...there are not many opportunities to cheat in Iraq...It does happen but that is last thing on anyone's mind when they are over there (been there done that). You need to communicate these feelings to your husband and come up with ways for him to give you the reassurance you need while he is gone. You need to also make sure you will be there for him while he is gone because you don't know what he will be going through. You are not losing your mind because there are some good men left out there.
I think being pregnant makes you think of things and sometimes be paranoid where before you didn't have those thoughts. Exercise every day, take a bath every day, not shower, and do some hobby or something that makes you happy every day. I will help you keep your mind off these bad thoughts.
It also doesn't help you are probably scared of being alone when he leaves and having a little anxiety attack. Maybe you can ask your doctor what to do, also I agree with the other person who answered first, work on your self esteem.
You are just scared because you feel safe and secure with him and he's leaving. So satan is playing tricks in your head to make you crazy and so you can't enjoy the time the you have with him while he is here with you right now. You love him and he loves you. Take it one day at a time. Enjoy every minute that you have while he is still here, and record on video all the little things about the baby stuff (shower, getting the room ready, etc.) while he is gone. Don't worry about all that silly stuff. He is going to be missing you just as badly if not more than you are going to missing him. Write in a journal also so that he and the baby will have a record of things you did to prepare for the arrival. All this will keep you busy and get your mind focused and excited about your new addition. Before you know it, he will be home with you and the little one. Good luck to you, and I will pray for you. Life is too short to waste it worrying. Things are going to work out fine.
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