Trust issues: Advice needed please?

I have been single for a very long term. I am terrified of having another relationship - the hurt I can live with, but not the hopeless depression I slipped into after my last relationship ended.





Because of my recent job, as a night worker, I have found it impossible to meet men. I have however chatted with lots of men online.





Amazingly most of them in my age group were married and many were seeking to meet women for fun or, more meaningful relationships. I found this sad, but true.





Basically, because I have seen so much willingness for men to cheat - I have lost trust and I am suspicious of all men.





Obviously this is not healthy and I'm wondering how I could become less suspicious, less defensive and more trusting?Trust issues: Advice needed please?
I feel the same way you do, unfortunately most don't act in a manner that changes our initial theory....I would say give them a chance but just take lots and lots of time with it..if their genuine they will do their best to please you and support your wishes, I have met a number of women that have met men over the internet that have had happy relationships.. but also know there are a heap of selfish males/females as well. There is no fool proof way of telling who is sincere or useing you via this media...Trust issues: Advice needed please?
Anybody on Earth can cheat you unless you are well aware of the person you are dealing with.If you go on line without a virus scanner you may again be infected with act of mistrust and suspicion.


'; Keep your eyes open before marriage, half-shut after wards';


--Socrates
stop chatting to idiots on line for a start, then secondly on a night off go visit a bar and relax not all men are like that, trust me they are some that give a bad name to the species.
I can sense a powerful and strong personality based on your writing. You had seen mostly white and black side of life. You shall become a good wife if you find the right man who can understand and support you well.
No actually it IS healthy.





But you have to realize that women are the same way. They will cheat to under the right circumstances.





Just as many women, if not more, cheat than do men.
keep looking, when you find the right man you will either trust him, or he'll earn your trust...





just keep an eye out, and don't date someone that is already in a relationship if you can help it, and end it if you find out the guy your dating is with someone else.





just don't give up... I'm one of those guys that will never, ever, even consider cheating on a girl, so just know, we're out here...





I would also ask you to consider something. Do you have any male friends that are single? Right there is a wonderful place to start looking... They are your friend for a reason, and it shows that they are at least someone compatable with you...