Trust pblm...advice needed please?!?

I was with a guy for about 5 years, who I caught lying to me many many times. To this day, I have a hard time dealing with being lied to. I have an issue trusting someone, once that trust is broken. I am now in a new relationship with a guy that, for the most part, treats me very well. In the beginning of our relationship, just 8 months ago, I tried explaining my problem to him, and tried to make him understand not to hide things from me, not to lie to me...just to come to me, and we can talk about it and compromise or whatever. He acted like he totally understood and said he would never even want to hide anything from me. In my past relationship, there were more problems than just lying to me. He was not only emotionally abusive, but physically abusive as well. I really have a trust problem with men...no offense. I told myself in-between relationships, that I want a fresh start. I want to have a happy, healthy relationship. And that's all I've done with this guy is try to be happy and try to communicate and make him happy. I trusted him so much, which I guess was my first mistake. He lied to me and hid something behind my back, which to me was something mediocre. But the fact that he lied to me and hid it behind my back, brought back the past. I can't help it. I can't help but think, ';what else is he hiding?'; I have felt depressed, and even more scared when he acts mad at me, even though I know he would never physically hurt me. I think it's because my trust level was brought down. I guess I would just like some advice. I just want to be happy, and I wish he could understand why I need to have such a trusting relationship.Trust pblm...advice needed please?!?
I've actually been in this situation myself, except I was in his position not yours. My fiance was very hurt that I lied to him and it came very close to ruining our relationship. Trust is one of the hardest things to mend once it's been broken, but it's also one of the strongest glues for any relationship. You have to be able to let go of the past, and really let go of it. My fiance' is very huge and made it a point from the very beginning that he would tolerate NO LYING. It seems as though you have done the same for your man. Now what you need to do is trust him. Does he respect you enough to understand why it's such a big deal to you? If you guys have sat down and really talked about it, than he should. If he's still disregarding that and lying to you then he may just not realize why it's such a big deal. That aside. You have to be able to trust him, and forgive his mistake. If you can't do that then it will always sit in the back of your mind threatening your relationship.Trust pblm...advice needed please?!?
get out now and don't look back
you may not like this answer but YOU already know what you want to do with this person...like that last guy, I'm 100% sure at some point you knew you should have left his *** but you stayed...our soul knows what it wants, but our mind confuses us, just follow your heart, i know its corny but its so true, just ask yourself should you stay and the first answer you get is the right one...good luck woman! lol