Boyfriend advice .. trust issues?

iv been dating this guy for about 5 months now and iv tried so hard to trust him but i cant .. i met him when i was pregnant .. and he has a few grands worth of fines i told him id date him if he would pay them off weekly. anyways 'because he was paying his fines off' he never had anymoney so i would pay for everything!!!! well he has spent money on me but the last few months its just been me forkin out all the money and i was on the doll cuz i ***** work.. anyways he lied to me all the time but about stupid stuff .. but 4 months down our relationship he told me he hadnt been payin them off like what the and in that time tht lie about the fines led to MORE lies.... i always tell him to be honest with me and and trust is so important to me because my previous bf would lie to me cheat on me spend all my money and tha stuff so theres no way i wanted anyof that with him... he knew what i went through with my ex so y is he doing it to me he swore to me hed never lie to me again but when im with him omg he treats me like a all time princess big time like i cant describe it i just feel so much love when im with him but when wee not together i get all sus and i always think his doing the dirty on me i ALWAYS talk to him about it and he promises his not doing anything but i cant believe him we broke up for 3 or 4 days and we got back together n in that time he started smokin drugs n drank how do i no he didnt get with another girl? its so hard to try and explain he is a really good lookn guy so i understand if chicks dig em but how do i no his not cheatn .. but he tells me he loves me he looks me right in the eye and ses it and he treats me so well! he was at the birth of my beautiful daughter he treats my girl like his own iv told him i dont trust him and that i believe his cheatn it gets me down so much i DREAM bout it i dont no what to do he rings me everyday he talks to me when im down like his a perfect boyfriend my family love him bt i cant trust em and to me trust is everything.. we can communicate with eachother really well but not so good on the other stuff.. like im pretty sure we broke up but this random old friend just came over n visited him for '5 minutes' to exchange numbers like WTF im a pretty jelous type and so is he tho what should i do?? his lied to me alot before so how do i no he wont lie to me againBoyfriend advice .. trust issues?
When trying to regain a sense of trust, the first step involves explaining how you feel. Everyone wants to be understood, but most people go about it the wrong way. The best way to get someone to understand your point of view is to focus on your feelings and not their behavior. But, when people are hurt or upset, it is common for them to blame or attack others. For instance, if you are upset because someone did not follow through on a promise, it is common for people to ignore the situation or blame the other person for what happened ';I thought you said that you would....';





Again, ignoring the issue does not make it go away nor does it help restore one's sense of trust. Rather than blaming the other person for what happened (even though it was most likely his fault), it helps to focus on your feelings rather than his behavior ';I am kinda sad and feeling a little hurt, and I don't like feeling this way.'; When you focus on your feelings, it makes it easier for him to hear what you have to say. And having him understand your point of view is the first step when trying to regain trust.





personally i think you should just get rid of him, he sounds like me..bad bad boy haha. anyway.. get a divorce.. if your not married.. get rid of him.. if you don't wanna do that either... stop complaining. :o) i think these are like the only your only options..Boyfriend advice .. trust issues?
Drinking and drugs? Hmmm. Bad news on it's own, I bet you knew that though. Listen Sweetie, without trust you got nothing. Kick him to the curb and get you a guy worth having. This one is both head and heart aches.
Hmmm, guys shouldn't be trusted. Well that type of guy shouldn't.


The guy nly guys I trust are the ones who think I'm cheating or whatever on them because that shows they care. woo
He'll always lie to you because you're gullible.
';Hurt me once shame on you, Hurt me twice.. Shame on me.';


^^ I live off of that quote when I'm having relationship problems like this. Trust is a BIG thing, and It sounds like he has lied to you A LOT.. Your worth way more and deserve way more then this... You seem like you have overlooked a lot... It will probably be very impossible to trust him with as much as he has done and maybe you should let go and find a guy that will be good just for you! You deffiantly don't know that he won't lie to you again, doesn't sound like he will change anytime soon. So let go and move on and find someone better, because you can do it! I'm sorry and good luck.