Lost my parents trust.. advice please?

Well, recently I lost my parents trust. I did not lie, or any of that sort. I did something not as bad as lying. But they make me go to my relatives house for the rest of my summer. I don't go back til the end of August. But I don't want to spend my whole summer at my relatives house because


1. So boring there I will rip my hair out if I got back there one more time


I mean, what should I do to get their trust back and let me stay home?Lost my parents trust.. advice please?
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Taking responsibilities for your actions is part of growing up. My advice to you is...apologize, suck it up and go to your relatives, that`ll give your parents AND you time to think. Losing someone`s trust is a big thing and it can take a long time to get it back. I`d be an angel from now on and do as i`m told, if i were you....
The only way to get their trust back is with time. You have to show them in your actions that you can be trusted. It takes a second to break a trust but weeks, months even years to regain it. First thing I suggest is no whining. Second thing is to admit your mistake and tell your parents you are sorry and that you understand why they want to send you away. I would say that ';I made a bad decision and that if you give me a second chance by allowing me to stay here I will show you that I can be trusted'; But here is the hardest part.... you have to show them that you can be trusted...can you?. good luck
Hello, Christie. I am wondering, aside from being required to


stay with your relatives for the summer, how does it feel to know


that your parents are disappointed in you? That you decided


to make choices that you knew would cause your parents to


no longer feel they can trust you?


Christie, trust is a major factor in any relationship. As you mature, you will realize the importance of that word. Consider how you would feel if you could no longer trust your mother and father to be there for you in ways they always


have been.....how hurt, disappointed, sad you would feel.....





Now consider that your parents feel that way about you and the decisions you recently made to go against their rules


for you.





It is going to take some time for you to rebuild the trust your


parents once had in you. It is not going to be easy or fast, it is going to require maturity, responsibility, and complete


honesty on your part.





You did mention in your question that ';I did not lie or any of that sort.'; But Christie, if you led your parents to believe


that you were following their rule about NOT having a space on myspace....while in actuality you DID have that space...that is LYING. It is not truth, right? Therefore it is a lie, Christie. There were multiple things that were wrong about what you did behind your parent's backs....you know that, they know that, and I know that, too.





This summer with your relatives is an opportunity for you


to learn and grow from your mistakes, Christie....that is


a very grown up thing to learn to do.





Maybe one thing you can do is to ask your parents what they feel you could do to begin to restore their faith in you. Remember, they do not ';owe'; this to you. You are the one


who lost their trust, it is now your responsibility to rebuild it.





Initially in your question you say you did something, but toward the end of your question you admit to doing multiple things. Christie, this makes it appear that you have another


issue with being honest.....if so, that truly needs to be repaired. You want to mature into a responsible, honest,


and caring adult, don't you? Someone who is trustworthy


and capable of living a respectful and responsible life?


Your parents are simply trying to prepare you for what


is required to do just that.





Their rules are based on their love for you and their life


experience---if they did not want you to do certain things,


they have reasons. One important reason is probably to protect you as you are still growing up....If you do not understand their reasons,


you might ask, but you surely do not decide to just do as you


please and expect them to accept that rebelliousness, do you?





I do not know your age, Christie, but there are dangers in


our world that parents rightfully attempt to protect their


children from. They may require you to NOT participate


in some online communities for very good reasons.....and


you would be wise to trust their instincts.





I am sure you have many positive traits, and that your parents see the beauty in you, their child. They want to guide you


and prepare you for the world which is not always a safe place....but they can teach you the wisdom of protecting yourself if you are willing to learn.





It would have been a lovely thing if rather than desiring their trust


so that you can go back home and not pull your hair out--you had written (and meant) that you want to restore their trust in


you because you feel badly that you have let them down and betrayed their trust in you.





Christie, you are learning a valuable lesson. It is far better


to maintain a good character than to have to rebuild one.


Your folks once trusted you, but you taught them that they


cannot do so. Now it is going to take time, work and


devotion to truth to win their trust back. I know you can do


that, Christie. I know in your heart you realize those things


you did were not right, and not for your best good. You know you are fortunate to have parents who care for you, who take time to set guidelines for you---there are so many children in our society who do not have parents who love or care for them......





I wish you all the best, Christie.....do all you can to build


your parent's faith in you.....and do not destroy that trust


again.





Doris


WithWingsofAngels@comcast.net
well, i cant help until i know what you did...
start being very trustworthy where you are now first ask your parents for one more chance and tell them that you will prove that you are trustworthy also i will help ouut mor eif you tell me what you did
What ever you done wrong-write an apology letter to your parents. In your letter explain to them the mistake you had made and the promise that you won't do it again.


Let them know how disappointed you are with yourself by losing their trust. Explain to your parents how much love and care for them and having their trust in you is very important.. When you are finish ask them if you can talk to them? If you need help with the letter, let me know...God bless
Well ya must have done something really bad to loose their trust. But sooner or later you'll get it back.


It doesn't grow on trees. Trust is something you have to earn. You just have to change your ways and quit doing what ever your doing that made them mistrust you. Your parent probably love you but don't know what to do to fix whatever problem it is so , they are sending you to your aunts house so maybe she can deal with whatever it is the problem is. Who knows, ya might end up liking it their. It is away from your parents and you are getting a break from them , and maybe they need need one from you. Just remember you will only have one mom and one dad in your life. You can't replace them. Make things right. Time will heal your hearts.