Any trust-worthy self help advice on unrepressing old memories?

I seriously have almost ZERO memory of my childhood. Not good ones. Not bad ones. ALMOST zero memories. I suspect that I am a survivor of childhood abuse but can't remember a darned thing except bits and pieces here and there but they prove nothing. I need to open myself up. Not remember the bad means I can't remember the good either. I've been through therapy ... two years worth and it didn't do a darned thing. Any ideas?Any trust-worthy self help advice on unrepressing old memories?
Just because you cannot remember some of your past doesn't mean that something bad happened.





As time passes, our memories of past events tend to fade away unless we access them occasionally. In fact, we don't usually store most of the details of any event. We usually just store key facts and primary visuals. The remainder of that memory is forgotten. Then, when we conjure up a past memory, we find those key thoughts and visuals, and then arbitrarily fill in the blanks with intuitive fillers which may or may not be factually accurate.





So, I think that you are worrying too much about what could have happened, rather than concentrating more on what actually is right here, right now.





Lamentations of the past and ruminations of the future will only feed the ravenous ego that we all possess. We can choose to be aware of those doubts about what really happened in the past, but we shouldn't allow ourselves to be controlled by or obsessed with them.





Sure, something bad could have happened. But, just as likely, nothing happened.





I suggest that you accept that mantra.Any trust-worthy self help advice on unrepressing old memories?
Hi Q%26amp;A Queen





The previous respondents are entirely right about few of us having many memories of our childhood - and there's a very good reason why.





Memories are stored, in a way we don't yet fully understand, in a way that involves the connections between the billions of cells in our brain.





At around age 10-11 each person's brain goes through a natural ';pruning'; process. That is to say, hundreds of millions of connections between brain cells just die off (we then spend our teenage years replacing them!).





This process is NOT random, however.


The connections we lose are the ones we used least. So all kinds of information that was only marginally important to us just literally disappears.





So it is much more likely that the things you can't remember just weren't important enough to survive the ';pruning'; process, than that they are negative memories of some kind.





By the way, if you've spent two years in therapy and haven't come up with anything - thank your therapist for being so honest. As a psychologist myself I know there are all too many people willing to help their clients ';discover'; all sorts of ';false memories,'; usually causing all kinds of unnecessary pain and distress both to their actual client AND often to the client's family and friends as well.


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sorry if this is too peripheral, but all i can say is that if you do uncover any ';repressed memories'; be skeptical of them.





there have been cases when people have ';remembered'; things very vividly that never happened, a lot of hypnosis treatments and even just talk-therapies can create false memories just as easily as the recover real ones.





there have even been cases where they were able to experimentally implant false childhood memories in subjects, they used innocuous ones about being lost in a shopping centre for ethical reasons, but the results are applicable to more traumatic memories too.





try asking people you knew in your childhood to ';jog'; your memory, or looking at old photo albums, these are my first ideas, but i assume in two years of therapy you have probably covered the simple stuff.





It is quite normal to have few memories of early childhood (before about 5 years old) so it is nothing to be worried or suspicious about.


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To rewind u can use the method used by the jains.


reverse video method.


start from today, while sleeping recall what u have done just now a while ago. then extend ur memory lane backwards. gradually within 15-30 days (depending upon the intensity of meditation) u can extend the memory to the time when u were 1year old. if any problem u can mail me, i will be helping everybody who is interested in this meditation.